welbeck
but it's not a case of OP offering unsolicited advice.
part of the problem is that the GC's mother keeps ringing her, all day everyday, asking for advice.
so she gives it, but the same questions arise, constantly, and there is no end to the interruptions from her DIL.
seems to be mixture of lack of confidence as a young mother, and an inability to operate without making a kind of interactive docu about her life.
anyway, i hope the child is ok.
parenting only has to be good enough.
none of us are perfect, nor had perfect parents.
Partially agree in the sense that if the DIL is constantly updating her it nay reflect a lack of confidence. But, the OP literally states the DIL doesn’t want/accept the advice. So again, my original point is that OP should take a step back. Of course it’s hard to see family struggle a bit. But we have to love enough to let go. The fact is that growing pains in young families are natural. We won’t be around forever. If you don’t let adults figure out their way in life, you are setting them up for failure in the long term. Creating a dependence on parental support doesn’t help them. The OP offers this help. She can choose to offer less.
With regards to DIL and no end to the “interruptions”, people have a right to check up on their children. The OP sees herself as raising the child, which is where her unwarranted annoyance with the actual parent checking up on the child comes from. She can choose to accept that the DIL will exercise her right to check in on her child, or she can stop looking after the child so much. But to expect the DIL to change her behavior is irrational. The OP has the problem, so the OP must change. Be less available, be less stressed. And let the young mum be the imperfect parent that she is, unless there is actual danger. Acceptance of imperfect parenting should apply to the young parents as well, right? Let’s judge them less and focus on working on we can actually change…ourselves.
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