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Does the maternal gran always have the advantage?

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Cambsnan Thu 29-Jun-23 07:47:34

I have 3 daughter and 6 grandchildren. We are close and I have been involved with all of the children. They range from 25 to 3 so nicely spaced out. The oldest boy is soon to be a father and I realise I have no experience of being on the paternal side of the baby. How do others manage that role? I have never had to ask if I could pick up a crying baby or gently correct bad behaviour. I expect this time it will be more of a challenge to not overstep!

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MercuryQueen Sat 22-Jul-23 06:50:48

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I just can't imagine anyone saying to their AC the things you've heard Mercuryqueenshock.

It's a strange world we live in isn't it where there are GP's only concerned about spending time with their GC to the detriment of their relationship with their AC, and heart broken parents estranged by their AC who lose not just their child but their GC toosad.

I mean, if you think about it, people getting angry about new parents choosing not to have visitors in the first few day-weeks after baby is born is shades of the same behaviour. They’re not prioritizing the new parents at that point, but their desire for the baby.

I don’t know if you’d consider that putting the baby ahead of their own AC or themselves ahead of the AC, but either way, it’s definitely not putting the relationship with their own kid first.

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