I have four beautiful granddaughters that are now 22,20,18 and 16. I found out that they have been living a horrific situation. I have tried so many times to get together with them at their home or mine. We were never allowed in their home, didn't know why, there way always an excuse - Now I know why - - it's Filthy - their parents; my son and daughter-in-law are slobs. There is stuff everywhere, they throw nothing away, just stack it up in a corner, clothes get washed and pile on the floors. Can't put them in drawers in because there's other stuff there. This is is where Dust goes to Die! It's 5 inches thick on thing above kitchen cabinets - where they prepare food on dirty counter tops. The back porch is rotted, the front porch is rotten, the grass is so high you can't walk. They have 3 children that are highly allergic to poison ivy, but don't do anything to get rid of it. My daughter in-law and son expects the girls to do the house cleaning, prepare food, tend to all the animals as well as excel at school. If they don't do that they are yelled at. The girls try to clean their room, but have to figure out how to buy cleaning products, because they are non-existent in this home. My son and daughter-in-law make lots of money - over $200K per year, their home when purchased was over $265k. Beautiful on 100 acres in rural Missouri - now it's probably worth $50K. There are probably 25 cars - all years and condition around the front and back of the house, they keep getting different ones and not getting rid of anything. There are bags of trash on the front porch - bugs crawling around inside and out. Dogs and their "pee pads" on the floor. They do nothing to repair the condition of the home, they say they don't have money to do so, but can go out and buy a $5000 dog, horses, new car, vacation, etc. But to not do anything to repair the condition of the home.
My issue is there is still a 16 year old girl living there - the other 3 have tried to get out by getting married, moving across country and staying with boyfriend. The 16 year old has no one to back her up - she will become their slave, they are imposing their wants on her and she has to comply. I am furious that I did not know about this and what was happening. I feel terrible, I have to do something, but I don't know what - over the years I offered to help with what ever they needed. Was told, no; we will take care of it, but then totally ignore it. I found out through one of the girls, my son and daughter-in-law are fighting all the time, not sharing a bed. They are rude to each other - verbal abuse abounds in this home.
I can't believe it has gone on this long without me knowing it was this bad. These 4 girls are amazing for living like that. They each have some type of problem and all their mother does is get them depression medication. The 4 girls need a better environment - they need to get out and stay out and be on their own - and away from the prison their parents have made for them.
Is there anything I can do legally to help the 16 year old that is still there and becoming "Cinderella"? I have told her we are coming down, getting her and her sister and going and doing things, giving them someone to talk to to lean on. NO MATTER WHAT - - - I am not being pushed out anymore. Is this a good first step? Concentrating on the girls - and figuring out how to help them?? How do you help someone live is hell? Any ideas or suggestions - do I just have an intervention with my son and daughter in law. I dont' care about the result of my actions as far as the relationship with my son and his wife. I don't care if they never speak to me again. It's about the girls. I have to also try and help the two that have left - one is married living close, so she still has to deal with it. The other just left for a new life today - moving to Las Vegas! I am so proud of her for going after her goal, and not letting her parents stop her! But what about the other 3??? Please respond - I would love some suggestions, my heart is broken, and very very ashamed.
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