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Husband doesn't want me to look after grandchild once a week

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Su51nan Mon 31-Jul-23 17:22:08

My husband and I both have children from previous relationships. He has 3 grandchildren which we see occasionally and my daughter had just had her first child, my first grandchild.
I retired early from my job 2 years ago and we have been working together for 2 years full time renovating properties.
I want to look after my grandchild once a week but he says this will affect our work and is not happy for me to do it despite me saying i will work an extra day at the weekend.
If I spend more than a few hours a week with my grandchild he says my life revolves around her but I just want to be close to her and want to help my daughter get back to work without it costing a fortune in childcare.
I don't want to have to choose between them but I'm feeling like it may come to that.

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luluaugust Sat 05-Aug-23 07:51:59

As your job with your husband is unpaid just tell him you are cutting your voluntary work from five days to four. He must have managed before you started helping two years ago. I suspect the arrival of a grandchild for you has changed the whole dynamic for him.

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eazybee Sat 05-Aug-23 10:10:42

I would be interested to know if any agreement has been reached.

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Summerfly Sun 06-Aug-23 15:17:10

I don’t think the OP will be too keen on coming back any time soon!

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