DIL posh family - advice needed

Are you OK DaisyAnnReturns?

It wouldn't be what someone said about themselves, but what they said about others that might lead someone to reach that conclusion..

I found the implication in that comment made about me offensive, Daisy Anne.
You were not on that thread, as far as I recall, therefore you cannot possibley know what was said.
Furthermore I suspect that you deliberately choose to misinterperet what some posters say.
When a poster makes personal attacks, you know they have lost the argument.

...and yes I have pigeon holed you too.

POSSIBLY not possibley.

I wouldn’t doubt for one moment what you say Marydoll. Many of us have been subjected to personal attacks and we remember exactly what was said, and by whom - though to name them would break guidelines. You are a very intelligent and well-educated lady, able to analyse what was said to you rather than be misled by bias or misunderstanding.

Thank you. GSM.

However, why on earth do I have to defend my self against an anonymous poster, with whom I have little or no interaction?
It's all very strange.

You shouldn’t have to. I have no difficulty in believing your version of events.

You were not on that thread, as far as I recall, therefore you cannot possibley know what was said.

Exactly the reason why having leant support to your view, I felt the need to be even handed and say we did not know what was written by either of you as, although you had referred to a post from another thread, you had not quoted it. It is not appropriate to blame another poster using "remembered" comments. You really should have either quoted the post or not referred to it at all. As I pointed out, that is why it has always been against the rules.

Above post in answer to Marydoll's 01-Jan-24 17:13:27 post

Are you making the rules now DAR? Either quote the post or not refer it? Which (non-DAR) rule does that infringe?

Dog with a bone, Daisy Anne.

I commented on something which upset me. End of!
Expecting me to quote from a post from many years ago is unreasonable. I cannot recall the words, only how upset I felt at the time. It stopped me posting on GN for a while. However, I have become more robust and am now aware of the less pleasant posters.

Even if I remembered the poster's name, it would be against the rules to identify them.

This is now verging on harrassment.
I note that attack and misinterprrtation is your modus operandi, rather than respond in a polite manner.

What puzzles me is why you insist on
dragging this out. Have I unwiitingly offended you in a previous life?
I do not recall previouslý interacting with you. Please enlighten me.

I have just come back to this thread and cannot believe that I am seeing so much nonsense.
Happy New Year.

Cabbie21

I have just come back to this thread and cannot believe that I am seeing so much nonsense.
Happy New Year.

We've had visitors and just logged into GN again for a catch-up and can't believe it either, Cabbie21!

I know Cabbie
Happy New Year all ❤️

Me neither!

Marydoll ignore DaisyAnneReturns

It's not just you, honestly, DAR always has to have a target and has upset many Gransnetters over many years.

DaisyAnneReturns you can report me if you like, I care not, but please give it a rest. Stop attacking other posters over nothing.

Has Christmas sherry been taken I wonder?

As an aside, I thought a chip on your shoulder meant an actual chip made from potato = working class? 🤷‍♀️

Then thought maybe a middle class version might be a rosti on your shoulder

Upper class a fondant potato on your shoulder

I don’t know about jacket potatoes

But anyway, it is about wood and it is definitely a saying aimed at people who are deemed inferior

I could not think of a wood hierarchy

JaneJudge

As an aside, I thought a chip on your shoulder meant an actual chip made from potato = working class? 🤷‍♀️

Then thought maybe a middle class version might be a rosti on your shoulder

Upper class a fondant potato on your shoulder

I don’t know about jacket potatoes

But anyway, it is about wood and it is definitely a saying aimed at people who are deemed inferior

I could not think of a wood hierarchy

I could not think of a wood hierarchy

Of all the trees that are in the wood
The holly bears the crown

FannyFanackerpan

Has Christmas sherry been taken I wonder?

I don't like sherry and rarely drink. My body is a temple.

Jane Judge, I have gone off chips, but do like rösti. Does that mean I have moved up in the world.

I have no idea how it all works Marydoll. They are all made from potatoes 🫠

Don't forget gratin dauphinois, although weirdly enough they have nothing to do with with kings' eldest sons or even dolphins!

It's always been the case that you cannot make a thread about another thread Germanshepherdsmum. I would guess you are well aware of that. All it takes is one post referencing back to another post, and GNHQ would have jumped on this in the past. So no, not my rules.

I was being even-handed. I don't know about you, but one person's memory of what was said and how they reacted isn't the whole story to me. That doesn't mean what Marydoll said is wrong. It just means we are left in a position where we do not have all the information, so we can't decide either way.

I don't know how many times you expect me to repeat this. This is simply a repeat of what I have said before. However, repeated posts in the same vein will not change my mind on the two points. Firstly, bringing a previous argument onto another thread breaks GNHQ rules. Secondly, it does not put us in a position to say whether Marydoll's reaction was reasonable. This appears to be what she wants; some sort of validation. That it was Marydoll's reaction is all that we know. We don't have the original or the other person's view of the post. We do know that another member hasn't been able to defend themselves.

Back to the OP.

I read 50% of us are working class. I can't work out why anyone cares about much of the nonsense OP listed, working class - happily!

As my dear mother would say, Dear God in Govan! Where did I say I wanted validation? Now I am being told, what I am/was thinking.
You could make a fortune Daisy Anne from your super powers.

This thread is getting more and more ridiculous! 🤣

I don't know how many times you expect me to repeat this

No, please don't .....