Granddaughter is so rude

Sometimes young teenagers just don’t realise how rude they have been unless they are pulled up on it. That’s how to learn boundaries.

NotSpaghetti

Is she rude when it's just the two of you?
Or is she doing it for her mum?

Attention-seeking. Very possible.

Is she rude when it's just the two of you?
Or is she doing it for her mum?

NannySue45

She is 11, probably hormonal, but no excuse for her rudeness. Mum is separated from her dad and now in (another!) new relationship

There's your answer!
How many new relationships has her mother had since splitting from your granddaughter's father?

It's a difficult age, I've noticed DGD, who's a bit older, becoming rather moody and hormonal when she was such a sunny-natured little girl.

If she's 11, has she just started at senior school too? Thst can be overwhelming. She has a lot to contend with.

She might just be tired.

Cut her some slack, show her you love her whatever, don't quiz her, but be ready to listen. 🙂

Imagine rudeness is verbal, cheeky, general attitude, the usual,
What else would it be? We don’t need detail? We surely all know what Rudeness is.

"Another new relationship" sounds quite disruptive for your gd. Is her mother your daughter? How does this rudeness manifest? You aren't giving much away with your answers OP.

A ‘new’ man is usually the woman’s centre of attention, the little kid is going through a massive upheaval and probably around puberty too when her whole body is changing
I think she needs more understanding and love

I agree she is probably needing support and understanding. Her mum is preoccupied with new partner instead of her daughter at a crucial time in life

She might be crying out for help. It’s hard for a girl coming into puberty when her parents have split up and even harder when there is a new man on the scene. Try and have a private word with your daughter about the situation. Maybe she is loved up with the new bloke to even see what is happening. Hugs not reprimands.

Try and be supportive. A new man in her and her mother's life life? "Another" new man rings an alarm bell. Is her mum your daughter? Does she spend time with her dad? Do you see her dad? Can you talk to her dad if he is your son?
She sounds like a little girl needing your support and help not a reprimand.
You haven't given much idea of bow she is "rude".

How is she rude?

so there is an excuse, or at least a poss explanation, right there in your last sentence.
and that's assuming that she is rude.

Definitely her age , my granddaughter's are 13 and nearly 12. The eldest one was really rude to me a few weeks ago , my daughter struggles with all of them, 6 year old grandson has adhd . I just said to my granddaughter, don't speak to me like that and she apologised.

She is 11, probably hormonal, but no excuse for her rudeness. Mum is separated from her dad and now in (another!) new relationship

Sorry to hear this. Can you give any more details. Such as her age, how long she has been rude, her home life. Are there any particular areas of conversation that trigger this behaviour?