I dreamed of grand-babies for years! I have a married DS (30) that has a 1 yr old girl. My DD (34) is single & has a 7 yr old daughter & a 3 year old son - with 2 different baby daddies. I really wanted to help my daughter with these precious babies since she was on her own. I live an hour away, I left my husband at home & moved in with my DD for 6 mths with each baby! (Pawpaw didn’t mind, we’ve been married 23 years)! 🙏🏼
Each time we reached 6 mths, it was an ordeal for her to put them in daycare! I enjoyed caring for
those sweet babies SO much!! Now I offered the same 6 mths stay with my son but since he’s married, they felt they could handle it! Nice! ❤️
Now over the years, my daughter DEMANDS that I watch her kids ALL the time! She says “it’s not babysitting, it’s your fkn grandkids!” “I’m single, I need a vacay!”
When I do go to her house to babysit & hope to visit with my daughter too - she’s on her phone non-stop then usually finds a reason to go out!
I have done endless amounts of laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, & yard work!!! I feel like I have PTSD every time I visit her now!!!
The chidlers are SO messy - they destroy my house & her house is usually a hovel!! (She’s on her phone, screaming at kids upstairs as they destroy playroom!)
She is always broke (high paid home health nurse) -& is always asking for grocery money. She has never been a financial burden, just recently! She does get her pedi/mani regularly & has real Italian hair glued to her head monthly! ( Wig $8000) had a boob job & BBL in the future!! 🤔
My husband retired 2 year ago & we own property in Thailand so we have started spending winters there from Texas!! We love scuba diving around the world & just traveling to new countries! My DD throws a fit b/c she needs me to babysit - and how dare we leave the country when she needs our help!! SMDH!
My son has shared that I need to spend as much time with Nova (1 yr old) as I have with DD’s children. I am the ONLY grandmother with a step- PawPaw! The pressure to be all things Nana stresses me out & brings severe anxiety - there are times I just go in a closet & cry my eyes out!! I can NOT be everything to everybody!! I have severe depression, anxiety & can never have a decent convo with my DD!!!
Thank you for reading,
Kellybel
