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Son not allowed to take baby out alone

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Pleasing Sun 26-May-24 09:46:59

Has anyone else had the same experience. My son is not trusted to take his son out, who is 6 months and not breastfed. He would like to come over to see me with his son. But, his partner wants the baby to be at home and I go visit, while she goes out. I’ve suggested purchasing all the equipment they have. I understand it’s hard to leave a young baby. But my son is a hands on Dad, gets up in the night, helps around house and with his son. He is brilliant. I don’t understand why he isn’t trusted. My son is upset by this. It maybe because his partner does not like me, but it’s not just visiting me. It’s taking him anywhere without her. I’ve never heard of a mum not trusting her partner

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Macadia Mon 27-May-24 03:29:26

I can relate to your DIL. Not depression - most likely her first baby. Just visit in her home so the baby doesn't need to leave home. Don't make a fuss about it and enjoy your visit. I didn't let my husband take the baby either. shock

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Philippa60 Mon 27-May-24 09:11:51

Our son (in Perth Australia) is in the same situation. He cannot go out alone with the child (she is now 2 years 2 months old). The mother does suffer from severe post natal anxiety, barely getting treatment.
Obviously we are not allowed to spend ANY time alone with the child when we visit, but that's less of an issue.
My son cannot drive alone in the car with the child or even go out for a walk with her alone.
Just wanted to share so you know you are not alone in this.
I am lucky to have a daughter who lives near me with 4 kids and I am a very hands-on grandmother to them!
Best, Philippa

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NotSpaghetti Mon 27-May-24 15:09:41

Philippa60 I'm sorry that two years on your daughter-in-law and therefore your son too, are still struggling.
I do hope she gets more help in future.
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SMA1218 Thu 30-May-24 17:50:02

I think this is more common that you think. I know of at least two couples right now that have this same arrangement. One is a mother who isn't allowed to take the baby out without husband unless it is to the daycare. The husband has anxiety about it. The other is a woman who just doesn't trust her husband to watch the baby, no particular reason, but also just can deal with the Anxiety.

This next generation has lots of anxiety. There are books and articles written about it. Read up on it and you will understand more about what is going on.

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