Son not allowed to take baby out alone

I can relate to your DIL. Not depression - most likely her first baby. Just visit in her home so the baby doesn't need to leave home. Don't make a fuss about it and enjoy your visit. I didn't let my husband take the baby either.

Our son (in Perth Australia) is in the same situation. He cannot go out alone with the child (she is now 2 years 2 months old). The mother does suffer from severe post natal anxiety, barely getting treatment.
Obviously we are not allowed to spend ANY time alone with the child when we visit, but that's less of an issue.
My son cannot drive alone in the car with the child or even go out for a walk with her alone.
Just wanted to share so you know you are not alone in this.
I am lucky to have a daughter who lives near me with 4 kids and I am a very hands-on grandmother to them!
Best, Philippa

Philippa60 I'm sorry that two years on your daughter-in-law and therefore your son too, are still struggling.
I do hope she gets more help in future.

I think this is more common that you think. I know of at least two couples right now that have this same arrangement. One is a mother who isn't allowed to take the baby out without husband unless it is to the daycare. The husband has anxiety about it. The other is a woman who just doesn't trust her husband to watch the baby, no particular reason, but also just can deal with the Anxiety.

This next generation has lots of anxiety. There are books and articles written about it. Read up on it and you will understand more about what is going on.