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Choice of childcare day

(34 Posts)
Notjustaprettyface Thu 04-Jul-24 22:27:16

For various reasons, I have looked after my daughters children aged 4 , 3 and 1 on 2 days a week but have never looked after my sons little girl aged 17 months
I would like to offer to put that right by suggesting that I look after her one day a week ( she goes to a childminder 3 days a week at present ) but I would like to say it has to be a Wednesday as I have her cousin then and I would like them to know each other and also because I would like to keep some days free for what I want to do
Am I right to think it’s my prerogative to say which day I want ?
What do you think ?

Hithere Fri 05-Jul-24 19:24:20

Given the parents of both kids don't get along, I would not suggest that arrangement or even think of proceeding with it

crazyH Fri 05-Jul-24 19:37:53

Notjustaprettyface - I can understand why you would like the cousins to meet up and play together. I am exactly like you. Fortunately, the two d.I.ls get on well and meet up often with the children for ‘play dates’. A chance for them to discuss their m.I.l. (Me 😂)

4allweknow Sun 07-Jul-24 11:45:35

Child ready has daycare. Your offer, if it helps DS in any way should be taken as a generous gesture. If day doesn't fit, you at least offered.

RosiesMaw Sun 07-Jul-24 13:02:25

Apologies for not reading all the way through but my first thought was about the Childminder. She may not be willing to have your DGC for fewer days in the week/or that arrangement of days so the place might be lost altogether if she needs to fill all 5 days of the week.

Nannashirlz Sun 07-Jul-24 18:26:42

I have my grandson two days a week Monday and Friday but Friday is all night my other grandchild she goes to a childminder my daughter inlaw said she wants me to stay nanna not nanny lol no I don’t get paid in cash I get paid in love. Don’t know why anyone would expect to be paid unless it was towards day trips etc i used to give my parents cash if I knew they were taking mine to zoo etc but I knew they didn’t like taking it but money went on my kids anyway.

RosiesMaw Sun 07-Jul-24 18:30:12

I don’t think being paid or not is at issue here, but convenience to OP

welbeck Mon 08-Jul-24 10:15:31

beware of interfering.
sounds like you are trying to correct the family dynamic, in your eyes.
no.
might alienate both parties.

silverlining48 Mon 08-Jul-24 16:01:54

If there are difficulties between your children there may be resentment if they think you are trying to get their children together in order to get the siblings together. In the circumstances it’s best avoided.