DIL obsessed with healthy diet for child

Marydoll I think this is the same poster, who believes she is being harassed by a care home for late payments, but I can’t seem to locate that thread.
As you suggest, maybe more going on here.

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You’re right Georgesgran

Notjustaprettyface has started several threads about her difficult relationships with her children and about the difficulties looking after her grandchildren.

Nojustaprettyface You are understandably very stressed about your husband, the care he is receiving in the care home and the problem with payment of fees, all of which you have shared on Gransnet.

Could you get your family together and explain to them calmly how you feel, think about whether or not you are coping and ask them for some practical help.
You seem to have so much to cope with and it seems to be causing you stress which is not good.

If you can remain calm and rational they should listen, understand how you feel and your family relationships may not end up being so fraught.

She also posted having difficulties with her husband before he got sick, years ago.

David49

We had 3 daughters my wife was very conscious of potential conflict with MIL, the girls were strongly advised to “make friends” with MIL, your life will be much easier.

They all did just that and have had very successful marriages, being a “friend” means compromise on both sides and you will be surprised how much influence mothers have on sons.

You absolutely don’t need to compromise on your child’s health.

Has anyone else discovered Biscotti chocolate bars? I did, and I wish I hadn't. They are scrumptious and addictive. You have been warned.

She’s not your child?
If her parents don’t want her to have something then you don’t do it.
You don’t have to like it but as that’s your problem

ALWAYS respect the child’s parents wishes. I always ask if my grand kids can have anything even though they are in their early teens. Respect.

I wouldn’t dream of giving any food/ drinks that isn’t healthy to my DC if their parents told me not to.. Respect and trust is needed.
I don’t buy biscuits or cake as I am trying to keep my weight down so there is no problem of seeing me eat it either. They can eat fruit or plain yoghurt like I do.

flappergirl

Has anyone else discovered Biscotti chocolate bars? I did, and I wish I hadn't. They are scrumptious and addictive. You have been warned.

Isn't Biscotti just an Italian biscuit?

Shouldn't be asking!
I like a lot of Italian biscuits as they don't seem so sweet as ours.
Can't turn down a decent cantuccini!

I wasn't even allowed to have "that sympathetic face" when my grandsons were eating rice cakes, washed down with plain water.

The mother could be setting the kid up with a major eating disorder when they get older, I know as the same thing happened to my sister & myself.

Mt61

The mother could be setting the kid up with a major eating disorder when they get older, I know as the same thing happened to my sister & myself.

Or she could be trying to stop her being set up for a life of diabetes, obesity, gum disease, liver disease... all things that plague the current generation after a lifetime of eating sugar.

Perhaps when she is a little older and able to take care of her teeth her mum will relax the rules a little. Who knows?

Notjustaprettyface

Well , thank you all for your very unpleasant and nasty comments
Gosh ! I never imagined people could be as nasty as that
It’s a wonder I am still alive after all this shooting down
It must be nice to be as perfect as you all are
Sadly , God didn’t make me like this
You all missed the point that once in a while , it couldn’t do any harm
That is common sense
Yes I was hoping you would agree with me but it wasn’t to be
I wish you well with your wonderful healthy GCs and even more wonderful DILs
I will now close this debate

Thank god for that. Stupid post

*You all missed the point that once in a while , it couldn’t do any harm
That is common sense*

No YOU missed the point that that fact is irrelevant. The only relevant point if you dont want yo lose your family is what the parents want and you following their wishes!

If I were your daughter in law I would not let you look after my child again. Stop telling yourself you respect your son and daughter in law’s wishes because you clearly do not. Not your child, not your choice.

I honestly don't see what your problem is and I don't understand why you say you are "lost and deeply upset." Whatever your daughter says, it's ridiculous to stop looking after your GD because you can't give her sugary treats. Whether your DIL is correct or not (she is!), you should respect her wishes. If you don't then you are cutting off your nose to spite your face, aren't you?

JdotJ

Notjustaprettyface

Well , thank you all for your very unpleasant and nasty comments
Gosh ! I never imagined people could be as nasty as that
It’s a wonder I am still alive after all this shooting down
It must be nice to be as perfect as you all are
Sadly , God didn’t make me like this
You all missed the point that once in a while , it couldn’t do any harm
That is common sense
Yes I was hoping you would agree with me but it wasn’t to be
I wish you well with your wonderful healthy GCs and even more wonderful DILs
I will now close this debate

Thank god for that. Stupid post

I thought the OP came on here for our opinions, not to back her up. Oh well.

Notjustaprettyface Gransnet is not an echo chamber!
You asked, we answered.

Callipo’s are disgusting, full of sugar, stabilisers etc I wouldn’t want any child of mine having one, it is her Mothers prerogative to request you don’t give her such things.

I have looked through your previous threads, are you over thinking everything?

This thread is perfectly expressing "their child, their rules".

She’s only 19 months old, sugar is not needed in anyone’s diet, let alone a toddler.

In any event it’s her child.

None of our children had anything sugary really until they started nursery.

I wasn’t allowed to give my DGS sweets or chocolate until he was around 4 and he’s almost 10 now and his sugar is still pretty limited, I agree with this, better for his teeth, no E numbers and better for his growth.

Mt61

The mother could be setting the kid up with a major eating disorder when they get older, I know as the same thing happened to my sister & myself.

She’s a TODDLER! She shouldn’t be having any crap at that age!

Once she starts nursery no doubt there will be sweet sugary treats and she will have them. In the meantime all power to Mum!

Notjustaprettyface

Well , thank you all for your very unpleasant and nasty comments
Gosh ! I never imagined people could be as nasty as that
It’s a wonder I am still alive after all this shooting down
It must be nice to be as perfect as you all are
Sadly , God didn’t make me like this
You all missed the point that once in a while , it couldn’t do any harm
That is common sense
Yes I was hoping you would agree with me but it wasn’t to be
I wish you well with your wonderful healthy GCs and even more wonderful DILs
I will now close this debate

I think you mean you’ll ignore all the well meant advice and outraged Grans that you deliberately ignored your DiL instructions about her baby.

It’s irrelevant whether it’s once a week or every day, Mum and Dad want their baby to be given age appropriate healthy food…. Cannot see the issue here

My daughter was the same and I found it best to follow the way she did things,I would check what they had at home and bought the same kind of thing. Now the children are older and are allowed some treats I get to spoil them a bit more. When they come to stay my daughter laughingly tells them grandmas house grandmas rules. What happens at grandmas house stays at grandmas house. They get great joy in telling her if they have had treats and she pretends to be cross with me. Just go along with it what she wants things might change.

She's their child so you go by their rules..doesn't matter what you feel about it, it's not your choice. They aren't starving her, they want her to eat a healthy diet. you don't have to like it, you just have to do it. If you feel you cant, that you just have to give her a cupcake, chocolate, sugary drink then don't look after her.