No visitors at the hospital

Sorry but it is not about you! I didn't hold my own twins for 6wks after their premature birth - they were in icu. Your time will come very soon if the birth went well. Only 4hrs in some cases.

I’m absolutely baffled that you feel so desperate to visit the baby in hospital. Don’t you think it’s fair that the new mother might like a day, a few days, even a week or so, before seeing anyone? It won’t make a scrap of difference to the baby, nor to your future relationship or role as a grandparent. Why on earth would you be so upset? They’ll take lots of photos, what difference do you expect to make? Give them as much time as they want and don’t make it all about your feelings - you’ve had your turn as a new mother, just let this go.

I must be odd because I couldn’t wait for family and very close friends to see my baby
My C were the same.
I saw, for a brief 20 mins or so, 4 of my GC within a few hours of their birth.
I do know now though that it is the norm to not want visitors.

I have to say that if breastfeeding the first few days/weeks can be a trial for the new mum, is often not easy and of course no new mum wants visitors to witness such a struggle and neither does a new mum want to keep having to go into another room to struggle whilst visitors enjoy themselves elsewhere.

Well congratulations how wonderful your first GC. Please don’t be upset it’s just how people seem to want to do it nowadays. Soon enough you’ll be able to meet the baby and make a fuss. You have to be patient or risk causing a rift or bad feeling, send congratulations and be happy for them. Could be the more you push them the more they’ll resist.

Don't take it too personally though I know is a tough ask, some new parents now ask for grandparents to give them time to bond with the baby before visiting. Try to send a nice care package when the get home - as Cossy has said if it is the UK and a straightfoward birth they could be out in 24 hours - order some nice bits from M&S or Waitrose, nice soups, lovely artisan bread, luxury biccies, tasty cheese and snacks etc., they will be glad of it in those first few frenetic days.
And keep contact via text or whatsapp rather than phoning for now, asking how things are going and sending lots of love and supportive messages.
Am pretty sure they will be asking you to visit soon and you will get to hold your gorgeous new grandchild.
Congrats and all the best xxx

I think you are being unreasonable. Try and remember when you gave birth to your son. Even if it was an uncomplicated birth, did you really want to receive visitors within hours??

You really really have to take a step (a few actually) back and let them be as they wish. Being so pushy and controlling will not bode well in future, I am afraid. Sorry to be blunt.

You will be this child's grandparent for the rest of your life. A few days at the beginning are utterly unimportant to the baby.

I am sorry, but I have to say 'good for them'! I think they are very wise to say no visitors at the hospital, that way no one can claim to have had the first cuddle, seen the baby first etc.

Doesn't bonding with baby involve skin to skin contact by both parents? Surely they have a right to privacy whilst doing so.

New mums and their babies tend to not stay in hospital very long anyway and I am sure there will be plenty of opportunity for cuddles with your new grandchild - just take direction from the new parents and all will be fine.

Firstly, if you’re in the UK and it’s a straightforward birth then it’s likely they’ll all be home the next day.

Secondly ask them very nicely if they will send you photos asap they all feel up to it.

Finally, congrats on the imminent birth of your first GC. It’s an exciting time for all.

Just share the joy when you’re invited to, and good luck