Worried sick about granddaughter

It might be best to start your own thread Suzieque66. Plus it saves people reading several posts before realising the date of them.

I dont think there ever has been an age when "a child is sensible". Partly because it can vary by quite a lot.

I think it used to be approx 14. Or 13.
11 is too young I think.

I hope someone else can help you more.

My daughter is leaving her 11yr old daughter in the house on her own while she and the boyfriend go out to gigs , whatever they are .. I felt sick when she told me and she said "its ok because ive got security cameras in the house " ...What about fires ? I cant explain how wrong this is ... Ive looked on the NSPC Website and they dont put an age on there as to when it would be ok to leave a child alone , which doesnt help @

Thank you for your replies. The father is very responsible and has the child every weekend from Thursday after school until Sunday. At least I know the child is safe then! It is my daughter and she won't listen to anyone. I worry about her also but she is an adult and knows that what she is doing is dangerous (at first it was accusations online but have learnt that it has progressed to going to people's doors) one of them put her address online. She listens to no one. My main concern in all this is the innocent child. I thought myself that maybe social services was the way to go and your replies have confirmed this. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply.

I fully understand how scared you are. The priority is if course your GC and she must be safe! These people may not be the Mafia but there are some nasty people on the loose! Your DD needs protecting too. If the child's father can take her and he is a responsible trustworthy father why not let him do that ? A call to Social Services may be necessary.

Why on earth is she (I assume this is your daughter) badmouthing people online?! And how has her address been posted without her doing it?! Personally if she was my daughter, I would strongly suggest she stops and behaves in an appropriate manner considering she is bringing up a six year old child. After that, I would leave things be and try to stop worrying. Unless this involves someone breaking the law, (in which case you can notify the police) there is nothing you can do. I hope things improve soon.

The father needs a lawyer and take legal actio , not just words.

Has that happened?

Gran4263

The father has asked for his daughter to go stay with him until she sorts it out but unfortunately, my daughter is not willing to do this.

Why ever not? Surely she should be acting in the best interests of their child.
Perhaps a call to Children's Social Services is required.

The child's father needs to consult Citizens Advice or a solicitor to explain what the child's mothe is doing and the danger she is placing the child in.

If the danger is seen as real and substantial, the child will be removed from the phone

Get her to take her address down from social media to start with may be too late but hopefully prevent anything else in the future
Are you concerned about violence or theft or just bad mouthing stuff?
You could talk to the police if you are concerned about violence but not sure how helpful they will be and also you don’t want the child to be taken away and put in care do you ?
Is this your daughter or son ?
It really depends how serious this is if it’s a gangland thing then yes it’s scary and frightening and they may need help if it’s just people who maybe mouthy etc it ll pass

The father has asked for his daughter to go stay with him until she sorts it out but unfortunately, my daughter is not willing to do this.

Well I don't know who they are but they don't need to be a member of the mafia to cause serious harm.

The mother of the child can ask to have the post with her address removed

If the child moves in with you, your address may end up online

What is the father doing to protect his child?

Airing your dirty laundry on social media, is dangerous; worse still is, airing someone else’s dirty laundry. I think you are worrying a bit too much, unless the person concerned is a member of the Mafia.