Unwanted gifts from neighbour

It sounds as if the neighbour is trying to show appreciation and pay back your wife’s kindness in taking her out, by getting a small gift for your gd.
I am not sure why you are bothered about this.
Maybe your wife can suggest the neighbour might buy them both a cup of tea sometimes instead.

Accept them graciously and donate to a toy bank - some children never receive toys and presents and would be grateful for something.

Once a month.. I’d say thank you very much and then save it for a raffle prize or something.

I’m not sure which bit of this is bothering you either.

If the act of giving brings the elderly lady happiness why would your wife want to end this? (or control this )

Tell your wife not to worry and that her GD's love can't be bought.

Accept it in the way it is being given….with love
she’s just trying to give back and its mean not to accept it it’s only once a month and gives her pleasure and makes her feel useful stop spoiling her pleasure

She's obviously grateful that she is taken to the shops.. and she might not have anyone else she can show love to.. I think it would be cruel to stop her buying small gifts once a month.. It just needs a bit of empathy...

She is only repaying your kindness. Accept it graciously. She has no family, no grandchildren, giving toys to your wife’s grandchildren, gives her pleasure. Don’t deny her that and it’s only once a month.

I have a friend who has no grandchildren and who we often help with technology or transport. It pleases her to be able to send small gifts to our GD as a way of thanking us. The gifts may not always be to our GD's taste but she is sufficiently well-mannered to express her thanks.

Accept the gifts for your GD graciously, as crazyH says. If your GD finds them too much, suggest she shares them with her friends.

I dont see a problem here, the neighbour is showing appreciation for the shopping trips, the grandchildren get a gift. What is wrong with this?

The best thing to do is to accept them and if they're not wanted or needed do as has already been suggested.

It isn't your neighbour who is being rude.

crazyH

She is only repaying your kindness. Accept it graciously. She has no family, no grandchildren, giving toys to your wife’s grandchildren, gives her pleasure. Don’t deny her that and it’s only once a month.

I agree 100% with CrazyH.
This lady appreciates your wife's kindness and a small gift for the grandchild is her way of expressing this.

'It is better to give than to receive'.

I don’t see the problem, your neighbours is showing her gratitude to your wife by buying gifts for her GC. I’d accept the gifts and if the GC doesn’t want them , take to a charity shop or donate to raffle or tombola.

Well said crazy H

Agree 100 %

Agree with smileless 2012

She's an elderly lady showing her appreciation for your help. Buying your grandchild a little present is quite appropriate and not in any way weird and wonderful. I could understand your distress if she was, perhaps, offering you large wads of cash. The poor soul doesn't realise that her good intentions are driving all of you, inexplicably, to the edge of a nervous breakdown. I suggest you graciously accept the gifts and donate them to charity. I can assure you that there are plenty of children who would be thrilled to receive them. Then find something more important to worry about.

It's ungracious to complain about a gift given as a token of appreciation.
The lady concerned giving the gift is appreciative of the help she receives.
Accept the gift gracefully and the good will intended it's rude not too.

Heaven's above! Be very, very glad that this is your greatest challenge. Accept that this lady is being gracious with her thanks to your wife for her help, and this is a lovely way to say 'Thank you.'

I agree with Sallyforth absolutely. We hear so much about unkindness nowadays it is sad to see acts of kindness being rejected like this.

Goodness, this must be high up on the list of "1st world problems"!

Take them to a food bank or charity shop, she is clearly a nice thoughtful lady, just show a little compassion back to her.

Even Victor Meldrew would feel more empathy!

Maybe the wife doesn't want junk to clutter up her house.