Unwanted gifts from neighbour

She's probably been brought up with good manners and to feel she has to "pay her way". Some people have - and it's her way of saying "Thank you". Be a gracious recipient - whatever you do with the toys afterwards.

The lady giving the gifts is NOT being rude.

Regift appropriately.

I don't think the lady is rude at all. She's insisting that she wants to buy something for the granddaughter as appreciation for the shopping help and won't take no for an answer. It makes her happy. What's wrong in that.
I can see that there's perhaps some concern that the lady is wasting her money.
Whatever grandaughter doesn't want give to a charity shop.
It wouldn't be a problem for me.

There was a time when kind acts were the norm in most communities.

My Mum always knitted a little jacket or hat if she heard of anybody nearby having a new baby. She knitted beautiful socks for bereaved men and she made scones or sausage rolls for anyone she thought needed cheering up. Anybody in hospital got some magazines or some fruit. She didn’t have much herself but she was brought up to be neighbourly and kind. All her 7 siblings did the same.

You should thank your lucky stars you have a nice neighbour.

Going against the tide here, but I really do think that if the woman’s been told more than once, thank you very much but the Gdd really does have plenty of such things now, she ought to stop.
Perhaps an occasional little present for the neighbour who takes her shopping would be nice.

The neighbour really is not the person being rude here. The gifts are kindly meant and do not appear to be inappropriate.

Maybe your GC could draw a picture for your neighbour, or even spend a little time with her using the art materials together?
We sometimes invite our neighbour to an ‘art’ session in our garden and it’s lovely to see them teaching the little ones art skills. Both sides benefit.

Maybe the wife doesn't want junk to clutter up her house.

Even Victor Meldrew would feel more empathy!

Goodness, this must be high up on the list of "1st world problems"!

Take them to a food bank or charity shop, she is clearly a nice thoughtful lady, just show a little compassion back to her.

I agree with Sallyforth absolutely. We hear so much about unkindness nowadays it is sad to see acts of kindness being rejected like this.

Heaven's above! Be very, very glad that this is your greatest challenge. Accept that this lady is being gracious with her thanks to your wife for her help, and this is a lovely way to say 'Thank you.'

It's ungracious to complain about a gift given as a token of appreciation.
The lady concerned giving the gift is appreciative of the help she receives.
Accept the gift gracefully and the good will intended it's rude not too.

She's an elderly lady showing her appreciation for your help. Buying your grandchild a little present is quite appropriate and not in any way weird and wonderful. I could understand your distress if she was, perhaps, offering you large wads of cash. The poor soul doesn't realise that her good intentions are driving all of you, inexplicably, to the edge of a nervous breakdown. I suggest you graciously accept the gifts and donate them to charity. I can assure you that there are plenty of children who would be thrilled to receive them. Then find something more important to worry about.

Agree with smileless 2012

Agree 100 %

Well said crazy H

I don’t see the problem, your neighbours is showing her gratitude to your wife by buying gifts for her GC. I’d accept the gifts and if the GC doesn’t want them , take to a charity shop or donate to raffle or tombola.

'It is better to give than to receive'.

crazyH

She is only repaying your kindness. Accept it graciously. She has no family, no grandchildren, giving toys to your wife’s grandchildren, gives her pleasure. Don’t deny her that and it’s only once a month.

I agree 100% with CrazyH.
This lady appreciates your wife's kindness and a small gift for the grandchild is her way of expressing this.

The best thing to do is to accept them and if they're not wanted or needed do as has already been suggested.

It isn't your neighbour who is being rude.

I dont see a problem here, the neighbour is showing appreciation for the shopping trips, the grandchildren get a gift. What is wrong with this?

I have a friend who has no grandchildren and who we often help with technology or transport. It pleases her to be able to send small gifts to our GD as a way of thanking us. The gifts may not always be to our GD's taste but she is sufficiently well-mannered to express her thanks.

Accept the gifts for your GD graciously, as crazyH says. If your GD finds them too much, suggest she shares them with her friends.

She is only repaying your kindness. Accept it graciously. She has no family, no grandchildren, giving toys to your wife’s grandchildren, gives her pleasure. Don’t deny her that and it’s only once a month.

She's obviously grateful that she is taken to the shops.. and she might not have anyone else she can show love to.. I think it would be cruel to stop her buying small gifts once a month.. It just needs a bit of empathy...