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Competitive gran? 4yr old torn/coerced

(32 Posts)
mrsbirdy Sat 16-Aug-25 09:26:59

I don't know what to do. I'm staying with Granddaughter, D,SIL at the other GM house. I am very close to my granddaughter (4) have had her every week for a day & I've early years experience. She's reluctant with the other GPs, too loud, not very child focused. Trouble is she wants me, daddy/gran try to coax her away, but she wants me to play, tell stories. She even snuck away upstairs to find me and get a cuddle in bed when they wanted her down for breakfast. I feel for her, I'm embarrassed, it's annoying them. Please advise!

mrsbirdy Sun 17-Aug-25 16:06:47

Interesting responses including a reprimand for not following up a previous post. Apologies to those that decided it necessary to take a harsh response I did not have time to clearly explain the situation fully. Perhaps it was because I was stupidly feeling anxious, vulnerable and embarrassed. I will certainly think twice before posting again so thanks for helping me learn what to share in future.

OldFrill Sun 17-Aug-25 18:23:49

Do you do stand-up.

StripeyGran Sun 17-Aug-25 18:31:50

Poor kid.

Labradora Sun 17-Aug-25 19:13:52

crazyH

How kind of the other GM to invite you.
I think the title of your post is rather provoking - the word ‘coerced’ is so unnecessary.

I'm a bit troubled by the use of the word "coerc'd" which can have nasty connotations, usually for adult behaviour. .
I fail to see , in this situation , how anybody is coercing anybody else.
Surely this is about a very small child deciding that one person is "flavour of the month" as children do.
The other grandparents seem to be trying to engage with her. If they didn't they'd probably be accused of not being interested enough in the child.
I agree with the many wise comments about ways that you could get yourself out of the way and let the other Grandparents " have a go" so to speak.

Smileless2012 Mon 18-Aug-25 11:12:01

Well TBF mrsbirdy we can only respond to what we've been told so if you didn't explain the situation clearly that's not our fault.

You didn't come across as feeling anxious, vulnerable and embarrassed if you had maybe the responses would have been different but for me, my advice to encourage your GD to include her other GP's in activities would have been the same.

Allira Mon 18-Aug-25 11:15:10

I'm still not sure why you're staying there.
It's kind of them to invite you but, if they read this, it would probably be the last time you get an invite.

Sorry if that does sound harsh but this is all rather strange.