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Heartbreak at news daughter and family want to move to Australia

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Denise7125 Tue 23-Sept-25 07:43:08

Sarnia, thank you for replying and sharing your daughter’s experience. if they decide to go we will visit of course but whether we make the move or not is another matter

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Denise7125 Tue 23-Sept-25 07:41:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope time will help me to come to terms with it, if they do decide to go of course.

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Sarnia Tue 23-Sept-25 07:30:38

I would feel just the same in your shoes. I waved one of my granddaughters off on a 14 month travelling adventure. That was nearly 3 years ago now. She reached Australia and decided to stay. She now has a job, an apartment and a lovely life in Brisbane. It saddens me that young people feel the need to emigrate for a better life. They should be able to get a good life here but successive Governments have put paid to that.
From now until departure day you will have to continue to be a good actress and keep smiling and being supportive.
Who knows, one day, you might be Australia bound to either visit or join them permanently. I really feel for you. flowers

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argymargy Tue 23-Sept-25 07:27:42

Oh I’m so sorry @Denise125. I have no specific advice but I know I too would be shattered by this. If you do consider going, I would make sure they’re going to stay permanently before you uproot your life. Not everyone adapts well to life over there.

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Denise7125 Tue 23-Sept-25 07:17:49

I know it’s not unusual now for families to move to the other side of the world but my daughter has just this weekend dropped this bombshell on us and we are devastated. Our granddaughters are 5 and almost 3 and we are very involved in their lives. I feel like my heart has been ripped out and I can’t stop crying. They want us to go with them but we wouldn’t be able to do that straightaway even if we wanted to. It feels now like every moment with them will be a countdown to them leaving and I’m struggling to cope at this point. I know that I should be pleased that they are thinking about giving their daughters a better life but selfishly I don’t want them to go. Im trying to be supportive and not put any emotional pressure on them so I’ve not shared how I truly feel but she knows me too well and when I see her in a couple of days I fear she will see through the supportive words and I dont want to upset her. Any advice would be gratefully received.

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