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Grandson is a nightmare to look after

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Youngnanny Sun 16-Nov-25 18:17:09

My six-year-old grandson stayed over and he was an absolute nightmare from start to finish. Walked through the door shouting, kicking off, giving me filthy looks. In the car he when we were taking them home he blasted music full volume just to get a reaction, and when I took the iPad off him he screamed in my ear so loud it actually hurt.
He’s always been like this, probably since he was around 3 years old.
He’s ok with my hubby, his Grandad, still a challenge but with me? Totally different story. His sister (she’s eight) even came out with, ‘He doesn’t like you because you’re mean.’ All because I’ve got a few basic rules — nothing out of the ordinary. The minute I said that, he kicked off again.
He actually knows what he’s doing, as in school he well behaved 😞
And I’ll be honest… I’ve had my own kids, helped bring up my little brother, looked after nieces, nephews, and a whole load of kids over the years. I’ve never met a child I couldn’t deal with…until him.
He’s the only one I genuinely struggle with, and I’m finding it really hard to even warm to him.
His sister has a lovely fun nature, loves a chat, he makes her upset, as sometimes he’s like this at home, definitely a challenge for his poor parents 😔
I’d love to have more sleepovers for them, but I really can’t cope with my grandson.
Has anyone else had a grandchild like this? I feel awful saying it but I’m completely out of ideas.

Flippin2 Fri 30-Oct-26 11:20:21

Rickydoo..if you can go on an autism bus,this helped my husband who was the same as you..it shows you by taking part in how sounds,smells, environments affect an autistic child.My grandson is 6,he's classed as non verbal although he has limited speech, he shows us a different world,the pure joy on his face when he's out in the wind and rain,when he sees fireworks ,when he's playing on his trampoline,whatever the weather..his meltdowns are awful to see but he can't help them....there are some wonderful poems out there about autism too

butterandjam Fri 30-Oct-26 15:45:28

Just invite his sister for a sleepover on her own, and stick to it.

When the parents ask why GS is not included, tell them the truth; You don't want him to stay because of his behaviour at your house, which is a complete nightmare.

You don't have to put up with that stress and misery, and it's not good for the boy either.