Feel totally taken for granted

midgey

The behaviour of some adult offspring astounds me. The assumption that it is a grandparents duty to look after their children is just so unbelievably rude. Some offspring seem to think that every grandparent has the energy, will or just the wish to look after their children’s children. They may well be mistaken!

I agree midgey. They take the p--s

Let them ignore you. Don't be guilt tripped.They'll want you soon enough.
My answer would be no. Especially at their ages. You do enough.

On the one hand it's lovely that your daughter and her husband trust you enough to look after both children overnight but on the other, they seem to be taking you for granted. Why do the other grandparents not have much involvement? Are they more assertive or less capable than you? It seems you are victims of your own success as grandparents. How do they cope when you go on holiday?

The behaviour of some adult offspring astounds me. The assumption that it is a grandparents duty to look after their children is just so unbelievably rude. Some offspring seem to think that every grandparent has the energy, will or just the wish to look after their children’s children. They may well be mistaken!

One aged 4 and 1 aged 6 months

To be honest I don't feel guilty, I feel disappointed in their response, it seems they are ignoring me now.I offered to look after one child and suggested the other grandparents look after one but it seems that's not acceptable ( the other grandparents have never had the children alone since they were born) it annoys me that they seem.to respect them more though)

Oh dear -another grandma , who is beginning to find childcare too much.
I have so many friends ,who are really struggling.
There's no magic solution to this problem-if you aren't happy it's best to say something.
And then ,stand back after lighting the blue touch paper.
It doesn't go down well.

I'm now in my tenth year of being punished by my son for not being able to look after my grandchild.
I could have over the past two two years as my father ,who required my full time care has passed.

We had ours for just shy of a fortnight while M&D were abroad.

It was tiring but we loved it.

Or do a swop of dropping two full days in exchange for the overnight which will no doubt involve two full days.

Just say NO. Tell that’s it’s too much. You are doing more than your fair share. Please don’t be bullied or feel guilty.

Talk to them about it and say it will be too much for you. Sounds like they are taking advantage of you both and enjoying free childcare. What ages are the children?