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Step Grandparenting ~ support needed

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GMoo Thu 08-Jan-26 19:31:18

I'm a step grandma to a 6 year old boy; my twin daughter's step son. She married last year and is now pregnant. I have a bio granddaughter the same age I have a strong bond with. My daughter has been angry with me and constantly berrading me for not doing enough for the grandson. I go to his concerts, bdays and include in all holiday gift giving. I raised 3 daughters and don't have much experience with boys.

My grandson has 2 other grandmas he has a close relationship with. I've been trying to form a bond with him but he's not interested; doesn't even say hi when I attend his events. My daughter is yelling at me for not doing enough, it's my responsibility for forming the bond (even though they only have him 1/2 time and are super busy with him when they do have him) and has been giving me the silent treatment stating I won't have a relationship with my grandbaby if I don't do better.

I have tried meeting with her and explaining how I need their help but would love to have that relationship. Any advice for working through this difficult and painful journey?

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theworriedwell Sun 25-Jan-26 13:27:34

paddyann54

Three of my grandchildren have step grandparents..they aren,t called”step”they treat the children exactly the same as their blood grandchildren.
When asked how many GC they have both sets say 3 .They are lovely people who wouldn,t want any child to feel different from the other children in their family.
We are very lucky to have them no child can have too many people who love them

My husband is grandfather to four of my grandchildren from the children of my first marriage and four from the children we have together.

When his first biological grandchild was expected he got fed up of people saying how they were his first GC and how he must be looking forward to it. His stock reply became "yes and I've been practicing being a GF for twenty years". All eight are his GC. End of.