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Supporting one grandchild financially?

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DollyD Thu 19-Feb-26 12:31:53

Don’t listen to all this “it will come back to bite you” etc.
It’s your money and you can do what you want with it, unless all your family are privy to your bank accounts how would they know.
Just because you can’t afford to give similar amounts to the other Gc at this point, don’t let it stop you helping the one in need, you can make it up to the others in the future.

Astitchintime Thu 19-Feb-26 12:23:06

Don’t discriminate between the DGC……..it will come back and bite you eventually. By all means, help the one going to university but equally give to the others, this will obviously reduced the sum for the one in FE but make it clear to them all ‘this is for your future’ thus encouraging them to save, invest but not blow the cash on crap.

DollyD Thu 19-Feb-26 12:17:36

With my Dc and Dgc I have over the years helped money wise the one who is in need at the time.
There was never any need to advertise this to anyone and things seem to have balanced out over the years.
I would go ahead and help the boy.

Cronesrule Thu 19-Feb-26 12:12:47

In my opinion it would be wrong to discriminate and display favouritism in this way, likely to create a lot of resentment in the wider family.

Cabbie21 Thu 19-Feb-26 12:02:17

My youngest grandchild hopes to go away to university in September if he gets the grades. For various reasons the older grandchildren have not been in this situation. I would like to help support him financially but not sure I can do so without it being seen as unfair on the others. There has been no pattern in our family for grandparents financially supporting grandchildren in any big way, apart from the usual Christmas and birthdays, so there are no expectations.
For various reasons I would not feel able to give a lump sum equivalent to his older cousins at this point in time. There are no weddings in sight, where I could make an equivalent contribution.
Can I just support one GC or would that be wrong?