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Heartbreaking parenting style

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Jocando Thu 15-Oct-26 22:47:48

I’m so sad and worried about the way my daughter speaks to her 3 year old. She can be mean when my little granddaughter is not cooperating, and speaks negatively about her in front of her.
This is even more painful than when she has had harsh words for me.
I’ve tried tactfully offering an alternative way of phrasing what she wants but she’s ver defensive and reminds me that unsolicited advice is a no no
It’s agonising feeling powerless to prevent emotional harm to my granddaughter.
I’m spending a lot of time thinking of ways that I can help and feeling heartbroken.

Grammaretto Thu 15-Oct-26 22:54:26

I don't think you can Jocando. All you can do is be yourself and whenever you have the opportunity, you can share your wisdom with your DGD.

Trust your DD. After all you reared her so have faith that all will be well.