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Gransnet cafe

Welcome to the *Gransnet Café. This is a non-judgemental space for you to pop in for a cuppa with some virtual friends, seek out advice for a particular problem, or share an update on your life - important or trivial. Feel free to have your say and chat about your day, but please leave any arguments at the door. If you're struggling to find someone to talk to in real life, or are simply looking for a bit of a chat, this is the place for you.

Welcome to Gransnet

(261 Posts)
LaraGransnet (GNHQ) Wed 19-Jul-17 11:16:26

Any new joiners? smile If you've recently signed up to Gransnet or have been around a while but haven't got round to posting anything yet, please pour yourself a cuppa and use this thread to introduce yourself and tell us how you found us. brew cupcake

Lindastarshine Sun 15-Oct-17 07:56:21

I have a Son who recently moved to the other side of the world and I never realised how dreadful and empty I would feel I'm anxious all the time and feel so sad I try to keep busy and am thinking of doing voluntary work I try to get out for a walk everyday as apparently walking is good especially if your feeling low. I'm never sure on Gransnet where to post this have only recently found this site. I would love to talk to other people in this sort of position.

MesMopTop Sun 15-Oct-17 03:05:06

Hello there Lindastarshine. Hope you're feeling a bit better by now. If you haven't already done so, maybe you and your done could organise Skype or FaceTime? If you're able to put a little bit aside regularly, you might even be able to pay hima visit. I know it would be difficult as you have caring duties, but even a week or two would be nice. Even a plain old phone all may help. Hope you can find some comfort and peace x

Mapleleaf Sat 14-Oct-17 10:08:25

Welcome, Linastarshine. Wise words from Marydoll. I, too, hope you feel better soon.

Marydoll Sat 14-Oct-17 07:48:10

Linastarshine, welcome.
You will find lots of support on here, just be careful how much personal info you reveal. I hope you feel better soon.

Lindastarshine Sat 14-Oct-17 07:46:05

Hi I found Gransnet while trying to find forums on children leaving for a new life thousands of miles away. My son has recently taken a teaching job abroad and I feel devastated I know this is selfish I have a husband who I am a carer to and a beautiful daughter and 2 beautiful grandchildren that love just down the road. My Doctor suggested anti depressants but I don't really want to go down that route. I now have anxiety and depression I try to keep positive and do have days now when I'm positive most of the time I hope you don't mind me posting on the cafe forum and thank you

pollyperkins Thu 12-Oct-17 16:00:46

I don't object to the name Gransnet though I can see that it's off putting for some, particularly Grandads and people without grandchildren. I think Loopyloo (?)s suggestion of Notjustgrans is a good one!
Ive been a member for about two years, lurked for a while but fairly frequently comment now, though I've never started a thread. I started like many others by following a link via Mumsnet when googling a problem my daughter had in pregnancy (which turned out fine.)

toniee Thu 12-Oct-17 14:54:10

Thanks for your kind words! I shall certainly be browsing the threads!

Mapleleaf Thu 12-Oct-17 09:24:53

Welcome to GN toniee. I'm sure you will enjoy being on board.

shysal Thu 12-Oct-17 09:11:13

Hello Toniee, welcome. If you become addicted to GN like I am you will waste spend many an hour reading the threads! Enjoy!

Marydoll Thu 12-Oct-17 07:09:04

Welcome Toniee. It will certainly keep you occupied, even if you just lurk and don't post.grin

toniee Thu 12-Oct-17 05:42:33

Hi everyone. Delighted to take part in this discussion. Am a widow of 65, with one daughter, married, and two grandchildren. They live a fair distance away from me so spend a lot of time on my own. Have a few friends I meet up with but am seeking more ways to use my time productively. Think being on here will prove a challenge! Looking forward to getting to know people and sharing ideas!

Margar3t Fri 06-Oct-17 21:35:42

Yes every time he goes out he says he'll be back as quickly as possible but deep down I feel it's always excuses then I convince myself well maybe he is quite a violent man turns on me quick when I cry out for his comfort he gives only why don't I believe him

shysal Fri 06-Oct-17 21:27:24

Welcome to Gransnet, MargR3t. Traffic on a Friday can be a nightmare, but only you know whether to trust him. Does this happen often?

Margar3t Fri 06-Oct-17 20:43:29

Hi my husband left at 5,30 to go to Enfield to do a delivery he has just rang and said he ain't passed Birmingham do you think he lying I have never trusted him

Margar3t Fri 06-Oct-17 20:40:36

Hi I'm sitting at home hubby went to work 5,30 this morning to do a delivery to Enfield just got a call saying he ain't passed Birmingham which means he still hours away I'm in Chester do you think he lying I don't trust him

Cheesey Fri 06-Oct-17 18:36:42

Thank you Mapleleaf.

Mapleleaf Fri 06-Oct-17 16:28:39

Welcome*Cheesy*. It really doesn't matter that you aren't a Gran. Neither am I, but it's not a problem, as there are topics which are relevant for anyone. Just enjoy the site, and post about anything that is of interest to you - you will get a response from someone, I'm sure. ?

Cheesey Fri 06-Oct-17 13:27:36

Hello everyone.
I have just joined after enjoying reading the forums for some time. I was initially wary of joining because of a thread I saw a while ago where a few people said they couldn't understand why people who weren't Grans would bother. I do though find a lot of the threads interesting and informative. I am happily married and have a large extended lovely family although I do not have children myself.
I am 61 and retired last year after 43 years full time work. I was absolutely ready to retire so was surprised to find myself a bit depressed and lonely at first and felt strangely guilty at having so much time on my hands. Now though I love it and really enjoy the freedom and the absence of work related stress. I have more time for family and often look after my niece's little girl if she needs help.
I still miss my colleagues though and need to give myself a kick up the bum and get out more and meet new people. I don't find this easy. Having said that I wouldn't now go back to paid work for anything although the money would be handy until the state pension kicks in in 5 years! I know I am lucky though to be able to retire at 61 and live by the philosophy "If I don't spend it I don't have to earn it."

shysal Wed 04-Oct-17 09:29:38

Hello nearlyretiredgirl, welcome. I hope you will love retirement as much as I do. If you become addicted to GN, you won't have time to do all that you have planned! As many others say, I don't know how I used to find time to work!

Mapleleaf Tue 03-Oct-17 17:38:42

Sorry, fat finger syndrome. Should have said nearlyretiredgirl not nearlyreturedgirl. Sorry!

Mapleleaf Tue 03-Oct-17 17:36:59

Hi nearlyreturedgirl. Welcome aboard. Have a look at the retirement thread - you'll find lots if interesting bits there.

nearlyretiredgirl Tue 03-Oct-17 13:51:51

Hi I joined last week while browsing the net for things to do when I retire early next year (early in age too) hope I might find some ideas here and some girls in the same situation. Retirement looks scary and bleak from here, so here's hoping that reading Gransnet might take some of the fear out of it.

Bedders24 Sun 01-Oct-17 23:25:13

Thanks Shysal, I will look at this.

shysal Sun 01-Oct-17 18:44:24

Bedders on closer inspection the Book Club is now under 'Books', since the re-organization of the site, which makes more sense.!

shysal Sun 01-Oct-17 18:37:21

Welcome Maryj68. I hope you will enjoy all that GN ha to offer.
Hello also to Bedders 24. If you go to the competition page you could enter to receive a free copy of the next Book of the Month. I haven't requested one for a while, but in the past I was usually successful. All they ask is that you make a comment on the relevant thread when you have read it.