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I think the sadness you feel shows that you are a kind, loving, principled person, Annie. Its very hard to realise that someone you trusted lacks these qualities, but that is his loss, in the long run. Chin up. X

I know. I suppose it's that old cliche of the end of a dream. You set out with the belief that these important family events will be shared happily with both parents. I always remember how hurt I was getting no mention as the mother of the bride at daughters weddings. But there again my ex gave a speech at daughter number one's wedding which was all about daughter number two. Reckon I'm just at a low ebb today and need to give myself a shake. So much to be grateful for.

They are reminders of the hurt you experienced at the time I guess, all the best

Welcome to the latest newbies and returnees .
What an awkward situation Anniepops. Family gatherings are also difficult for me, as my ex's wife has a problem with me, obviously feels insecure but she is welcome to him. So pleased that you have found happiness in the end. Enjoy GN!

Hi, Sometimes I feel like I need a bit of a lift. Happily married for 3 years now to a lovely man. I retired nearly 4 years ago and love it especially taking advantage of holidays, days out whenever we like and caring for gc two days a week. Only one thing interrupts my happiness. 13 years ago I discovered my then husband of 25 years had been leading a double life living with another woman 60 miles away for at least 5 years. He pretended to work away. Needless to say I was devastated and divorce followed very quickly. All in all a very painful experience which I think I'm recovering from until the inevitable weddings and christenings. The latest being my little gd christening this week. The ex is there together with his affair partner wife and he avoids my space as if I have a contagious disease. I now also do the same. His wife makes a polite effort and I will smile but inwardly I feel awkward and think how can she act with sweet innocence. So there you go, my story. I can no longer talk to my family regarding my feelings as they think I am long over their dad, which in most ways I am. He was a selfish deceitful man who I am lucky to be rid of. Should I still be feeling such sadness after all this time? Words of wisdom please.

Hi I'm a lurker to. Just returned after a long while and forgotten how friendly and entertaining Gransnet is. Definitely going to make the effort to join in again.

Welcome Bear123

This is my first time on GN and found it when I was trawling through the internet looking for ways to make some friends. After my husband died 2 years ago, I didn't want to remain in the house where I lived then, it was too large and in a remote village. My son, I lost my daughter when she was 20 years old to a road accident, lives in the north west and as I lived in the south not far from London, he suggested that I sell up and move near to him and his family. This I did and have lived in my two bedroom bungalow since November 2016.
Obviously,I had to leave all my friends that I had made when I was working. I worked until I was 69 and so I have only been retired for just over a year.
I have two granddaughters, aged 6 and 11who I see regularly as they live very close to me, which is great.
I have joined a knitting group and have met some very nice people but they all seem to have known each other since school days. Hope to hear from some like minded people soon

Welcome Scribbles . There is plenty of non-grandparent stuff on here. Enjoy!

Welcome to all newbies. I`ve been here since 2011, just after GN was formed, persuaded here by a very good friend. Scribbles, I look forward to this Lincolnshire meet up in the not too distant future, I hope.

Hello, all. I've been here a week or two so maybe it's time to introduce myself: mid sixties, living in Lincolnshire. Well, most of the time. Currently in the throes of clearing out and getting repairs done to manky old house in Essex where we used to live so it can be sold. OH is a squirrel so there's 40+ years of utter junk to sort through and chuck out so the builders can have space to work. The new house is far too small to accumulate 'stuff' so it can't happen again! It's all a bit stressful at present so I make my escape into forums etc.
Not a grandparent and have no great desire to be one. Our only offspring is mid 40s and determinedly single and childless so I don't have to turn down any babysitting requests. I do find the Gransnet name a tad off-putting - as others have said, it invokes visions of a certain kind - but can't off the top of my head think of anything better.
I try not to waste too much of my day messing about in forums but I'll try to look in regularly and participate when the spirit moves me.

I can't remember how I got into gn but I'm so pleased that I did, I'm curled up on my sofa this Sunday evening listening to exhausted husband gently snoring, exhausted dog the same, my iPad music quietly playing, wine to hand after long weekend celebrating a 60th and a 30th, reading posts, adding my thoughts, having a quiet giggle and thoroughly enjoying interacting with like minded souls, total peace and contentment, thanks gn

Perhaps it should be called notjustgrans.com

Welcome all newbies! I've been here a while - it's quite addictive and I do feel I need to step away every now and again or I get over-invested! Great fun though.

Thank you for the welcome!

Thanks @baggs

Welcome Matza . Now that you have taken the plunge, I look forward to your future contributions. Enjoy!

Hello , long time lurker on here and have been a member quite a while now. Early sixties, retired from a job I loved on health grounds for a while now. Had a head injury a while back, and some disability, so sometimes my writing is a bit back to front... (that's my excuse anyway )
Two very young grandchildren looked after mainly by Grandad and myself. Heartened by reading a very supportive thread on here today so I thought that I would finally say hello to the very good folks on here.

Sorry if I traumatised you granny

Agree with Nelliemoser - Gransnet works for me. I've discovered it over a year ago but can't remember how I came across it - may have been an Email. Now I'm addicted!

I like your name, Bagpiss. Wish I'd thought of it

@crafting, yes I chose it, not a miss spelling ?

Mumsnet ??????

Welcome to the latest newbies . I hope you will enjoy all that GN has to offer.

I'm a new member too. Almost 53, still working and with 2 grandchildren. Like previous posters, I used to belong to MN and found this site through a comment on there.

Think I prefer it here. If the name (as suggested earlier) were to change, what would people change it to?