GOING TO COURT

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Jimijam1.....he's 5 yrs
Old..he can't read

I personally think once you involve the legal system it becomes a battle ground. I know this is a bit old fashioned in this present day have you tried writing to your GS?

Marylan...I know your case was last year..but wondering how it went.
Last week my case was dismissed ..after 9 months a d four court appearances. Permission to apply was granted...stating I had a close relationship with my grandson...however due to parental hostilities I failed.
It amazes me that people have stated going to court is wrong.
How can that be?
Your son or daughter tell you...you will never see your grandchild again...what are u supposed to do...sit back and say oh well...that's that?
Grandparents have no legal right to access.
The court is the last place I wanted to be..I'm 71...but even tho I lost...I would encourage anyone to fight your corner.
My grandson 5 had no knowledge of the court case..as it should be.
The more grandparents go to court...the law may eventually change.
I lost...I will loose contact with my grandson forever..as they are moving to an unknow address
Would I do it again...I sure would.
Knowing what I now know about the court proceedure...I would go more prepared.
If anyone is going to court..I would be willing to give any advice I could...

The OP was August last year! Done & dusted (or busted) by now.

I wonder how it went?

You do not give us any idea why your DD does not allow you contact with your DGS.

With the boy being 12 and you talking of court action to insist you have access to him . Has it occurred to you, as others have pointed out, that he may say he doesn't want to see you. At 12 they will not make him do so if he does not want to.

Aren'tou being rather controlling and is that the cause of all your problems? How will you feel if it is him who says he doesn't want to see you?

marylane1996.....What was the outcome?

You have to have experienced this to know how it feels.
Not having contact with a darling grandchild through no fault of your own is like a living bereavement.
Going to court is to apply for permission to ask the judge for an access order.
No one will force a child to visit. At 12 years old he will be able to have a say in the matter. If access is granted it will be a gradual process. You have come this far, what have you to lose? A relationship has to be bad to get to this in the first place. Be prepared to go with the wishes of your grandchild.
Lots of luck

Surely at 12 if he wanted to get in touch he would. I think kids just naturally drift away as they reach this age. I certainly don't remember having much contact with my GP's once I stopped tagging along with mum and dad. I'm really not sure what you're hoping to achieve except alienate your daughter further.

I would never do this - sorry but I just wouldn't. I love my GC more than life but I'd never go to court to force a 12 year old to spend time with me.

I agree with rubytut - try to get his phone number and send some texts. I personally wouldn't go any further than that.

Difficult situation, it will be up to the 12 year old, a court cannot force him to do anything. If you can get a phone number for him a friendly text every so often would keep lines of communication open so that he has some connection when he is old enough to do as he likes. So sorry for you.

I can understand you being sad not seeing your DGS and knowing how he is progressing with his treatment.
Going to Court would never enter my head as it would surely alianate your DD further, am I right in saying the Court can not make the child come to visit you as you are requesting just give guidelines and leave it up to the mother & father.
Remember also at 12 yrs old your DGS has a mind of his own and may not want to comply with any such order.