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Pet Peeves

(102 Posts)
GagaJo Mon 12-Aug-19 09:06:51

Welcome all budding Victor Meldrews! What annoys you most?

I have many, many annoyances. One is noise! I love my peace and quiet and solitude. Really annoys me when in my rare moments of peace, it's destroyed by irritatingly loud interlopers.

Tillybelle Mon 12-Aug-19 22:42:55

fairisle. I just tried to PM you. It didn't work. Hope you are OK. Don't be upset about having your message deleted. Usually it's the HQ being ultra careful because someone on here has complained that you are not being nice to them! That was my experience! When I pointed out that some people had different views, on a thread once, a person posted a message that made everyone scared to say anything different to her. I pointed out there should not be a bias and she complained about me! Most people assume if your message is deleted, you must have written something rude, but I never have! But one or two people are given to complain, writing to HQ if you respond to their posts with anything less than overwhelming praise! So please do come back.

I love this Topic GagaJo! I think it should be voted "one of the Best! It could run for ever!
I'm still really bothered about dog pooh bags in trees......
I have 5 little rescued poohers. I have never hung a pooh in a tree - bagged or not! Bag it and put it in a bigger bag and take it home. for Heaven's sake!!

Small tip: (my dogs do small poohs so it might not be good for big ones). I double over about 4 squares of loo roll per pooh and cover the pooh completely. It goes in the bag. When home it flushes in the loo. No dust bin getting very smelly. Mostly my dogs pooh in t'garden where I scoop it with a hoe into an old long handled dustpan (I have a bad back) and then bury it in a hole in the ground upon which I put a little stick pointing up.

Such a sweet and fragrant topic for a balmy Summer night! It's so lovely to chat!

CaroDane Mon 12-Aug-19 22:37:25

Neighbours who are too busy to even say Good Morning to you, and avoid you like the plague as they assume because you are old that you will be pestering them BUT the same people expect you to take in all their parcels for them as they know you are home most days. I have delivery drivers nearly kicking down my front door because they have been TOLD to knock at my door.

Marilla Mon 12-Aug-19 21:34:35

Loud, thumping music from passing or parked cars.
Loud music being played from nearby houses with windows wide open on a summer day.
Dog poo bags hung on trees. ?

Tillybelle Mon 12-Aug-19 21:32:20

fairisle. Oh fairisle! Where are you going? I am a bit dim, maybe I have missed the point. You are not offended are you? Please do not disappear. This is a friendly place. Have a pet peeve! It's fun to let go. Look, Imm6 has added some really good ones...

If you are off to somewhere really nice (whoops - there is probably someone who finds the wrong use of the word "nice" peeves them!) then do have a really great time.

You will come back won't you? You have such a lovely name, you must be a lovely person to think up a pretty name like that.....
oh dear my dog is raiding some food I have not put away properly got to dash sorry.
Lots of love, Elle x

Tillybelle Mon 12-Aug-19 21:25:26

P.S. So Sorry I left some typos in my first post. I didn't see them! I hope it made some sort of sense for you.

Forgot to say; regarding chewing gum. I am ambivalent. I do chew. I too have a dry mouth - tablets I'm on cause it. When I was learning the trumpet I was told trumpet players chew to strengthen their jaws! No idea if it is true but I used the excuse. However, I hate seeing people walking about or generally in public chewing. I agree, that gormless cow-like stupid chewing face is simply not polite! So I don't chew in public or at least not when anyone might see.

fairisle Mon 12-Aug-19 21:23:00

Goodbye all!

lmm6 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:19:49

People who constantly talk about their money.
People who wear a baseball cap back to front.
Children’s T-shirts with phrases on the front.
Drivers who play loud music with car windows open.

Tillybelle Mon 12-Aug-19 21:10:36

There awesome things I know I ought to be peeved about...???
No... are some things I ...
sorry

Tillybelle Mon 12-Aug-19 21:05:48

Squiffy and Aunty Flo I too wondered if it was peeves about pets! There awesome things I know I ought to be peeved about or perhaps more strict about regarding my pets, I mean, they do rather take the advantage of me and do naughty things they know are supposed to be against the rules.... Unfortunately the older I get the softer I get. Pancho gets to do his little sneaky cuddle routine three time every morning now for example which does hold things up a bit.. Maybe that is for another thread! My pet peeves. Oh dear. The older I get the more crabbier I get too!!
Especially On Noise...
jangly things in gardens (Wind chimes? - huh! they don't chime with me)
Booming cars
Roaring motor bikes
people who enter a room and start shouting to all and sundry
people who have every noisy machine invented and whirr them into screaming motion every Saturday and Sunday at about 8 am
People playing their loud "music" (boomy stuff) outdoors and at night.
The loud booming noise of the Father Christmas lorry (which used to play actual beautiful choir-sung carols) belting out pop Christmas ghastly repertoire to collect money round our streets from October onwards.
Loud-talking women on public transport trying to impress
Mobile phone shouters - especially in trains
People rustling newspaper
Chewing loudly
chewing (I can hardly say it) with their mouth yuk yuk open yuk
snoring, the explosion noise type. OK it's medical..
clicking pens
screaming girls. Why do they? We never did. Mine didn't. We'd have been told off and told we sounded like "a common little oik" or words to that effect. My dear Dad would have simply said, "Don't you have any pride in yourself?'
most adverts
people saying "somefink" and "anyfink"

Smells:
Barbie queues (I know - family name) absolute desecration of the beautiful English peaceful Summer evening.
Men's aftershave
The weird smell of men on pillows people don't wash when you visit them.
Cigarrettes - anywhere and on people who have just smoked them
Other types of smoking
Coconut - OK it's the latest health fad but I am allergic to it and it makes me seriously sick even the smell

- apology for ignorance:
We all put our bins out the night before round here, sorry, I really thought we were meant to.
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general peeves
obviously dog owners who leave dog pooh anywhere
and as I am so aghast to read it I shall have to join in with Barmeyoldbat and quote her doggy poo left in plastic bags hanging from trees. AAAaaaaaggggghhhh!!!
people who always "know better''
people who make a "clever remarks"
people who "show everyone up"
people who point out that the rest of us are wrong
People who spoil the fun by pointing out every one's mistakes such as that this should be "on the “Moaning" thread"
People who sit smugly on the moral high ground denouncing the fun everyone is having e.g. as we chat amicably about their pet peeves, because being a superior being, they rise above such things. That is, they do not stoop to having pet peeves.
In short my biggest pet peeve is people who upset others, like to hurt them and putting them down or who spoil a bit of harmless and happy fun shared between friends! I grew up with such a "cold water" and "moral high ground" person. She had all the put-downs in the book at the tip of her tongue so that just when I and my playmates (younger than she) were enjoying a game together she could kill our fun with a weighty and superior put-down.. Eugh! Spoilsports!

Tillybelle Mon 12-Aug-19 20:07:41

GagaJo. I love you!

I can now print what you have said, put it on my wall and show my children: Someone else is like me!

Caro57 Mon 12-Aug-19 19:06:47

My DH who says “could you just...................” and expects me to drop everything and ‘do’............or maybe he assumes I have no life if my own and I’m just waiting for his request!

Barmeyoldbat Mon 12-Aug-19 19:01:08

I have a dry mouth due to a medical condition so I use chewing gum at times to keep my mouth moist. Also we put our bags and bins out the night before because of early collection. Also cycle on the pavement (as I did today down the High Street) as drivers have a habit of stopping and opening their car doors without looking. I have to put up with the dozen of kids on scooters and skateboards on the pavement so they can put up with me. Rant over.

My pet hate, doggy poo left in plastic bags hanging from trees.

Susangilley Mon 12-Aug-19 18:57:01

Talking in the cinema whilst I am trying to follow the film.

fairisle Mon 12-Aug-19 18:52:48

Message deleted by Gransnet. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Nanny27 Mon 12-Aug-19 18:18:07

Dog walkers who use extending leads instead of training their dogs properly. They often seem oblivious to the fact that the dog has just s**t on my drive.

TrendyNannie6 Mon 12-Aug-19 18:09:46

People that either don’t replace the toilet roll and those that put it on the wrong wayyyy

Oldandverygrey Mon 12-Aug-19 17:40:20

That's ok Auntieflo, our bags have to be put out by 6.30am, guess not everyone gets up as early as me!

4allweknow Mon 12-Aug-19 17:37:13

It could easily be next Monday before my list ends. Children screaming in gardens (usually girls), people speaking loudly on mobikes in public places and my latest people taking photos/videos capturing my DGD in them without permission. Try telling them it's illegal like you are speaking alien.

Auntieflo Mon 12-Aug-19 17:08:19

Oldandverygrey, unfortunately we have to put out our bags and refuse boxes the night before collection, as the bin men arrive between 6.30 and 6.45 am. We are not up at that time, so, sorry.

petunia Mon 12-Aug-19 17:02:07

I have two, both related to public transport and mobile phones

The first is the person who conducts a very loud and one sided conversation on their phone for the entire journey treating us all to the minutiae of their lives. today we heard what they had for breakfast, the text they had from an acquaintance, the row they had had with someone in the street and so on, and so on. All with colourful language used as punctuation.

The second is the young man sat next to me on the bus. I slowly came to realise that he was flicking through soft porn pictures on his phone. Young ladies in a state of undress and hip damaging poses. When I told my OH later he suggested that I should have leaned across and whispered in the young man's ear, W****R. Such a wag my OH.

RosieLeah Mon 12-Aug-19 16:43:03

I'd also like to defend the use of chewing gum. I suffer from tension and I find that chewing gum helps to stop my jaw from freezing up.

Cambia Mon 12-Aug-19 16:41:43

People pushing proms and pushchairs or holding little ones whilst on their phone. Talk to your child for gods sake! How do you expect them to learn to communicate otherwise.

Wheniwasyourage Mon 12-Aug-19 16:41:38

Alison333, I quite agree with you. My children were taught, as I was, not to scream unless they really meant it, and they managed to play perfectly well without screaming!

Nonnie Mon 12-Aug-19 16:33:26

Alison that reminds me of the fable about crying wolf. I used to think it was only little girls who screamed but was recently told that little boys do it too. Don't think they did when mine were young.

Oldandverygrey Mon 12-Aug-19 16:21:34

Neighbours who insist on putting out their rubbish bags the night before the binmen are due to collect them. The foxes/cats have a really good time in splitting open the bags and scattering the contents all over the pavements etc., Guess who cleans up the mess in the morning.