Back from shopping with a good friend . She seemed a bit perturbed, over coffee she told me that she had found her parents marriage certificate, she didn't realise that she was born a couple of months prior to her parents wedding. That's not really the issue because back then there was quite a lot of couples who 'had to get married' either before or after the birth of the child.
What's bothering her is that after having a discussion with her mother, her mother was reminisicing about when she met her late husband (it was Easter) my friend said to me that would've meant she was born 7 months after they met, assuming they had sex on that day!
I said that her mum had probably meant that they had met the previous Easter , it's quite easy for an 85 year old to confuse the years - which woujld've made a lot of sense. She wasn't born premature either, she was full term.
She is now worrying that her late father was not her biological father, I advised that if it really worried her she could get a DNA testing kit from a reputable company and get DNA samples from her siblings to see if they are full siblings.
I did ask her if she really wanted to go down that road, spending probably quite a lot of money, and that it wouldn't achieve anything apart from causing a lot of upset. The man that raised her was her father. I personally think the mother got the year wrong and I told her so.
we mulled it over , looking at the various possibilities and ended up having a laugh over it, but I must admit that sort of revelation would shock a good many folks.
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