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What to do with a windfall

(41 Posts)
Maggiemaybe Sat 18-Jul-20 17:44:19

Of course travelling may be difficult for the foreseeable future, but if you can I'd spend on that while your husband is still able to enjoy it. We have always prioritised seeing the world over spending on our house, and have not for one moment regretted it, so I'd go for the precious memories if you can.

Peardrop50 Sat 18-Jul-20 17:40:21

It all depends on how you are intending to alter the kitchen, if it entails a nice patio door with room for a couple of easy chairs so that you and your husband can sit and enjoy the garden then it would bring you both some joy.
If your husband is on the dementia journey, will he enjoy a holiday in a strange environment?
I would make some nice memories closer to home, especially a home with a kitchen that suits you better.
Whatever you decide I hope you enjoy it.

Floradora9 Sat 18-Jul-20 17:27:52

Where do you get a high interest account Sarah ?

Davidhs Sat 18-Jul-20 13:25:46

With just the two of you why do you need a bigger kitchen?,
to make it larger probably means knocking walls down and a lot of disruption.
As you are both getting older is the bathroom as easy as it could be, a walk in shower/ wet room is very convenient when you are not as agile as you used to be.
If hubby is declining a holiday when you both can enjoy it would be good.

WOODMOUSE49 Sat 18-Jul-20 12:31:05

Obviously, you sound like both options are what you would like to do. So do both.

Your time with your husband is precious.
Do the kitchen as this will impact on you and him. Get a few quotes in.
It doesn't have to be an expensive lavish holiday. Perhaps a few short breaks together visiting places you both have an interest in i.e. walking, sight seeing, food, cities, culture ...

midgey Sat 18-Jul-20 12:11:51

No point putting it in the bank! There is no such thing as high interest at the moment. I agree with pp, extend your kitchen and have some lovely days out.

GrandmaMoira Sat 18-Jul-20 11:51:22

Personally, I would do the kitchen but I know other people are more into holidays. It all depends which is more important to you.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sat 18-Jul-20 11:50:05

It's nice to make memories but being practical, I'd improve the kitchen if I was in your situation. It would give you a pleasanter place to work in each day, your heart will lift each time you enter it and if you were to move it could be considered an asset by the buyer. I spend a lot of time at home and I enjoy pleasant surroundings.

sarahellenwhitney Sat 18-Jul-20 11:48:08

Put it in the bank/ high interest account and think about it.
Don't rush, it isn't going anywhere, not without your permission.

MissAdventure Sat 18-Jul-20 11:47:40

I would try to have a few days out and a new kitchen.

Charleygirl5 Sat 18-Jul-20 11:47:18

I personally would extend the kitchen. You would gain benefit and the house would be easier to sell if you wanted to move later.

EllanVannin Sat 18-Jul-20 11:45:11

I'd do both if you can grin Good luck.

kittylester Sat 18-Jul-20 11:42:28

X posts

Good job we are not all the same purplepixie. grin

kittylester Sat 18-Jul-20 11:40:42

Lucky you, annie but sad to hear about your dh!

As things stand, I would do the kitchen. You will be glad of it in years to come especially if your fears about your husband are confirmed.

We were thinking about going on a big holiday for our golden wedding anniversary but, luckily as it turns out, decided to totally redo our lounge as we will spend a lot more time there as time goes on.

Purplepixie Sat 18-Jul-20 11:35:23

Well done! I personally would use it on holidays with your DH. Make memories, take lots of photos and hug each other a lot. If you don’t need a bigger kitchen then why bother, leave it for someone else to do in the following years. Enjoy the money and look after your health.

Anniepa Sat 18-Jul-20 11:31:56

I have just had a small windfall and wondered what you would do? I have, with any luck, 10 active years ahead so - do I have some nice holidays or do I extend what is a modern but very very small kitchen. With the first option there would be memories for later years (and as I believe my husband is at the start of dementia these may be needed) with the second option I would have ease of movement whilst cooking which I certainly haven't got at the moment. Thanks