Do you ever argue with your siblings?

I had a fairly good relationship with my sister until my ex decided to cause problems between us. She has since been very disloyal and so trust has gone. I think we are working to restore it but I like to discuss things and she likes to pretend nothing happened.

My husband and sister were like chalk and cheese. They never agreed on anything and couldn't be in the same room for more than a few minutes without a disagreement.

Not really shouty but rather tedious.
Sadly she died young so no idea if it would have got better with age.

My sister hasn't spoken to me for over 5 years and its not the first time. She judges people by how much money they have and I am the opposite of her. My mother was the same and this was why we didn't get on either.

I dont have any siblings but two of my daughters tend to clash now and again. Its usually over jealousy as one of them is always accusing me of the other one being my favourite. We live 5 minutes drive from each other and my other two live at least 30 minutes away. I never see or hear from the older one unless there's something wrong or she needs something from me. She doesnt even ring when she knows I'm not well. So that might be why I am closer to her sister. LOL My younger (3) daughter doesn't get involved and will speak to either sister if they want to.

I don’t speak to my brother( 5yrs younger) unless i have to. This has always been the way since we left home.( I’m now 66)
This is especially so as when our older sister died 2 years ago he told me I was useless and he was ‘done with me’ after I refused to order my son and daughrer NOT to bring my 4 grandchildren to the funeral. He said i should do it out of respect for our sister. Well I’m sorry but our sister absolutely adored my grandchildren and would’ve loved the fact that they were there!! All her friends afterwards told me they were pleased that they were there too.
My son and daughter are in their late thirties, who else orders their children of that age about? Anyone?? I certainly don’t.

I do not live in the same country as my sister and she does not "do" email, as she says. She also does not travel as she doesn't like to be out of her comfort zone. We speak from time to time on the phone and, if I want to see her, I have to travel to her. We have little opportunity to argue which suits me fine.

polnan

I just do not understand anyone falling out, ie not speaking...

polnan
You are very lucky in that you have not encountered evil siblings.

No.
I have two younger brothers, and I would describe our relationship as distantly affectionate.

We weren't raised to be emotionally demonstrative but when I moved into a retirement flat early last year, both of them, individually, came for a "trip to the seaside" to visit me. It was a couple of months after the second visit that it dawned on me that they were checking to see Sis was OK. Nearly two years on, that is still a warm and fuzzy that I'm smiling at.

I’ve always argued with my younger sister, not so much the older three. Brexit and covid response have been the worst triggers recently. Almost fell out with one older sis over Mum’s will but in the end we are all sisters and no-one is cross for long.

Estrangement doesn’t always follow a falling out and usually one party doesn’t understand the estrangement either so it’s no good others feeling confused!

My older brother is dead, my oldest sister I haven't seen since boxing day 1982 and the one in the middle last time I saw her was nearly 11 months after our father died in 2007 and there was no rows no axe to grind it just finished!

My siblings and I don't fall out, but we can't be frank with each other. There are deep religious and political differences.

I haven't spoken to my brother for quite a while, and I didn't speak to my sister for some time either, although we speak now.

It was partly my fault, we live on opposite sides of the country and it always seem3d to be me that rang them or travelled to see them and it eventually got on my nerves so I stopped ringing. They still didn't ring butlast year I got a message from my sister to say she had been rather ill and her doctors had suggested I got tested to make sure I didn't have the same condition as her. Since then we have spoken quite often.

Still no contact from brother though.

My sister wrote me off 19 years ago,don’t know why,except she hated our parents and Althought difficult I didn’t cut them off ever.
If she contacted me now she could get lost.

My brother and I fought like cat and dog when we were young then once we left home we saw less of each other and got on ok when we did meet. When we had kids we got on fine but were never close. He lived a few miles from my mum so I always arranged to see him and his family when visiting her, but we lived 200 miles away so it wasn't very often. He has rarely visited me. It is sad that although we have children who are close in age they are not particularly close, despite my son and his younger son being at the same university at the same time. They have much more in common now - both are university lecturers - and my son's family have visited his cousin recently. My side of the family just aren't close. Only yesterday my son was staying over at my house and was asking about family. Many of my side of the family he'd never met or even heard of! In contrast his wife has a large extended family and they are all very close and in regular contact. Consequently we don't argue as on the rare occasions we meet it is all about catching up what has been happening to us over the last couple of years.

I never argue with my younger sibling. We generally get along ok. I never see/ speak to the older one. Says it all.

Not spoke to mine for over 20 years nor will I ever again. His treatment of our mother in the last stages of her life are unforgivable. We occasionally pass each other on the street and don't even acknowledge each other, which suits me fine.

I have one brother and we're estranged. I haven't seen, nor spoken to him, for 23 years. Nor do I want to.

I still miss my younger sister, who died after a road accident over 30 years ago.

I do not see my youngest sister, she lives some distance away, often but we get together several times a year and email each other. We talk occasionally on the phone, but my sister, for some reason, hates using the telephone for any reason.

I've not had any contact with 3 of my siblings in over 10 years.

No. All three of my siblings were adults when I came along so I had to do as I was told, and they never really took me seriously until I married and had a family of my own. I don’t remember having a cross word with any of them, and I miss them sorely.

One brother 5years younger,once Wrote on a mothers day text to me I was more of a mother to him than our mum.
Respectively now 70 and 65 as a family of two we have had hard times but he will always come to me knowing I dont always agree but will tolerate his offloading and ranting without cutting ties,I just say I
am hanging up now speak soon love you,we always end with a love you.
He lives over 100 miles away,so dont see him often.
If I dont hear I know all is well,its when he has a problem I hear from him.