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Older age

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fancythat Fri 09-Aug-24 08:38:14

Not sure this is in the right topic.
Not even sure if I have written something like this before.

I am struggling with the idea of older age. I am early 60's.

My main friends are mainly a bit younger than me. So dont feel yet I can discuss this fully with them.

The couple of friends who are older, are sort of sorted as to how their life may go.

Myself and DH, I obviously do not know who will die first.
Our kids live nowhere near here any more. Indeed, it is possible than two of them may not even be living in the country in a few years time. Who knows?

I am a planner by nature.
My life up to about two years ago, very largely went as I had planned it to.
Which I think made me very fortunate.

Now. DH retired then unretired.
Which was the first somewhat bolt from the blue, at this particular stage of life.

And I cant know what the future may hold in lots of ways any more.

I dont even know what I am asking.

I did see someone on GN say once, accept older age. Or something like that.

For me, I dont think it is just older age itself I am thinking about.
It is the uncertainty in general?

For instance, how to plan, when I have no idea if I will live for another 2 years or 20.

Very first world problem I know.

I thought I would ask some Gnetters for some advice.
Thank you.

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Twig14 Mon 12-Aug-24 13:51:26

Take it a day at a time. Nobody can predict what will happen enjoy each day. My mother is 104 and still very happy n cheerful. Don’t think too much about the future.

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heidimargaret Wed 14-Aug-24 09:49:46

You are a spring chicken. Enjoy your youth. Planning to much can sometimes go wrong. My husband had to retire at 49 that put all our plans out of reach,we are now both 74 but neither of us feel old.
I do as much as I did in my 60's
As long as you have good health don't let your brain let you think your old because your not.
One day you will look back and realise you were still young

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