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Them/they What does it mean?

(102 Posts)
LR10 Tue 26-Nov-24 17:23:59

I have an appointment to meet a young lady next week about a volunteering job and I notice she has written Them/they next to her signature. What exactly does it mean and is there something I should know when I talk to her - I don’t want to offend her by saying the wrong thing. Can I call her Miss … ? I guess not, but I don’t like to use her christian name, it seems too familiar.

Glasweegran Mon 14-Apr-25 21:19:38

charley68

Thinking about this makes me very cross. Especially that young girls and women are giving away the rights that so many women throughout the years have fought for.

It also probably means that the young woman/person does not care about women's single sex spaces, such as in hospitals, sports, prisons, rape crisis centres, justice - with rapists being called 'she/her' in court by the justice system, reporting media and so on ad nauseam until my head feels it will explode.

I have been watching the Supreme Court online today via my laptop, and some of the questions that the SC judges asked the barristers were gob smacking.

Wow. What a long list of assumptions about a person just because they wish to be referred to in a certain way.
Actually a person who has thought about their gender identify enough to tell you what it is has probably got lots of opinions about safe spaces for women, and especially safe spaces for non-binary people. I am hoping that Gransnet is a space space for everyone to be who they are, but maybe not.