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does anyone here over 50, still suffer from being broody? please

(64 Posts)
January2025b Sun 02-Feb-25 18:30:50

hi just wandered pls, does anyone here still suffer from being broody pls,,
i have been through the menopause with no symptoms,,
just wandered - has anyone tried anything pls to help 'alleviate' these symptoms,,, thanks!

rafichagran Mon 03-Feb-25 00:20:06

No, could not think of anything worse.

henetha Mon 03-Feb-25 00:03:30

Not broody maybe, but I certainly longed for a third child, and it still lingers within me a little.
But I know I'm lucky to have two really nice sons and four grandchildren.

Skydancer Sun 02-Feb-25 23:04:31

I’d love to go back to when mine were babies but goodness me I definitely don’t want babies at my age.

Whitewavemark2 Sun 02-Feb-25 22:01:34

Good heavens no.

HeavenLeigh Sun 02-Feb-25 21:53:59

Nope I’m in 60s and mine are in 40s glad I had them young but no don’t feel broody

sodapop Sun 02-Feb-25 21:49:11

No never felt broody at all, love the family I have but wouldn't do it again

Aveline Sun 02-Feb-25 21:26:05

No. I do love to see wee ones and enjoy their company.
However, today when we were out for brunch the couple on the next table had newborn twins. I was desperate for a wee cuddle but restrained myself to smiling in their direction - they must have been worried at this Gran and her sickly scary grin!

M0nica Sun 02-Feb-25 21:24:12

Not remotely. From the day my first child was born I welcomed every development that meant they were more self sustaining and independent, and I got back my freedom.

Do not get me wrong my dear children were much wanted and have always been much loved. But a parent's job from day one is to prepare their children to survive out in the world independently standing on their own feet and that is what I did.

Norah Sun 02-Feb-25 21:19:30

No, Oh my, No.

Catterygirl Sun 02-Feb-25 21:16:01

I tried to become sterilised in my twenties. My GP refused. She said I might change my mind. I married my second husband at 30 on the understanding I wouldn’t have children, possibly because I was expected to mother my sister as my parents spoiled her so much they couldn’t cope with her tantrums. Fast forward, somehow at 37 my husband said last chance saloon and I was so sure after so many years on the Pill I would be infertile. Along arrived our wonderful son. I can’t say I particularly enjoyed the baby period but from 5, we were inseparable. We still are. He’s 35. We both worked in television for years and are so similar, steak has to be raw, things like that. Broody. No. But I do understand people who feel that way and I think it’s normal.

Iam64 Sun 02-Feb-25 20:57:18

No

AGAA4 Sun 02-Feb-25 20:44:56

No not broody at all. I think those feelings will pass.

MissAdventure Sun 02-Feb-25 20:44:18

The same for me, sadgrandma
My friend said it was almost a physical pain, the longing for a child.

Sadgrandma Sun 02-Feb-25 20:41:01

I never have been broody not even before or after having my daughter who wasn’t planned but who I loved with all my heart the moment she was born and the same goes for my granddaughter.
January2025b, I think you are probably menopausal so perhaps you could foster or help out at a mother and baby group. Hopefully you will become a grandmother at some time.

Tenko Sun 02-Feb-25 20:28:30

Nope, I’m not a gran yet , if it happens , lovely , if not , that’s fine too .

Rainbow1235 Sun 02-Feb-25 20:18:57

I’m 54 with 6 adult children . My 33 year old son has autism so will always live with me but he’s amazing so it’s no hardship . I have 5 grandchildren and happy with that . Hopefully no more babies to come my way grin

pinkprincess Sun 02-Feb-25 20:18:48

I am 80 and am a great grandma.I love seeing babies and holding them, but I have not got the energy now to be caring for them full time

Oldbat1 Sun 02-Feb-25 20:11:49

It is a definite no from me!

MissAdventure Sun 02-Feb-25 20:11:29

I'd much rather have a kitten. smile

Could your feelings be caused by hormonal issues perhaps?

AreWeThereYet Sun 02-Feb-25 20:03:53

No. I think the closest I get is nostalgia for holding my own tiny babes whenever I hold someone else's baby. Doesn't last long though. Generally happy to be baby free now.

Claremont Sun 02-Feb-25 19:53:08

Broody, oh NO!

Indigo8 Sun 02-Feb-25 19:46:39

I love my GCs dearly and see them several times a week but I am quite happy that I am not their mother and I don't live with them.

RosieandherMaw Sun 02-Feb-25 19:45:00

Nooooooooooo!

flappergirl Sun 02-Feb-25 19:44:19

Definitely not! I have one child who is now nearly 50. Naturally I love him beyond words but I've never been child orientated and don't particularly enjoy kids. I've never been one to go out of my way to engage with other people's children except obviously with my son's friends when he was younger. I have no grandchildren and that really does suit me fine, although nobody ever believes me. I'd far rather look after a room full of puppies or kittens than babies.

Harris27 Sun 02-Feb-25 19:38:08

Well I’m still working at 65 work in preschool room and it gives me my fix!