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How much should I give best friend's grandson who is going to be travelling for six months?

(114 Posts)
Betony Mon 23-Feb-26 16:00:09

I'm talking about my best friend's grandson, not my own. However, I'm very fond of this hard working 19-year old, and would like to give him some money for when he goes travelling abroad for six months. Any suggestions on how much I should give? I'm not talking about a fortune here, but an important consideration is not to cause jealousy/resentment from his younger brother, or younger members of my own family. Maybe the whole idea is wrong! Thanks in advance.

Allira Mon 23-Feb-26 23:24:28

Well, I'll stick to my original suggestion of a travel wallet which can be concealed beneath his clothes.
You could put in some currency as a surprise, however much you can afford or want to give.

MT62 Mon 23-Feb-26 21:42:11

I don’t think it’s odd. No different than buying him a gift for his Christmas, or birthday.
I would just get him some Euros- what ever you can afford, price of a meal.

Humbertbear Mon 23-Feb-26 21:28:54

NotAGran55

Why do you feel it necessary to give him anything?
When my son went travelling 12 years ago nobody gave him any money,not even us. He worked for 6 months and saved up to go.
We bought him a decent rucksack but that was it.

I’m afraid we didn’t even buy the rucksack.

Gran22boys Mon 23-Feb-26 20:47:28

I also think £100 but a gift preferably.

Moth62 Mon 23-Feb-26 20:08:29

Sorry, I meant that your wish to give him some money was a lovely gesture.

Moth62 Mon 23-Feb-26 19:59:52

When a work colleague was going off travelling, I bought her a nice journal and a pen. She really loved it. Not saying that this young man will though! I think it’s a lovely gesture and I’m sure he’ll be very appreciative. I agree with the poster who said you could get him some currency for one of the countries he’s going to, maybe in a travel wallet.

crazyH Mon 23-Feb-26 19:54:21

Get him some currency of the first country he will be visiting. I would say about £100 worth. He is your best friend’s grandson after all.

David49 Mon 23-Feb-26 19:49:30

My GC get £1000 for 18th birthday, what they use it for is up to them.
Anything else they can ask for, it has to be worthy, with parents OK

Granniesunite Mon 23-Feb-26 19:32:47

This is something I’ve done a few timesBetony £100 pounds is usually what I’d give.

Give what you can afford.

Visgir1 Mon 23-Feb-26 19:26:01

My Nephew went travelling he wanted a powerful power pack and multi lead charger. I asked him what he needed it wasn't expensive so I gave him money as well.

J52 Mon 23-Feb-26 18:47:17

Lovely generous idea. We gave our nephew £200 when he went travelling after university. It was also a birthday present. His sister was given a wedding present of the same amount so it was fair.
I’d probably give about £100, if you can afford to.

Joanofarc99 Mon 23-Feb-26 18:45:27

M0nica

What does it matter whether it has never occurred to other posters to do this. I expect all of us at some time or another do something that it would never occur to anyone else to do.

The OP wants to give this lad, whom she knows well and likes, a little booster to help him on his way. What a lovely idea.

I would give him £100, large enough to be appreciated, not to large to put a burden of gratitude on his shoulders.

Agree with this

Georgesgran Mon 23-Feb-26 18:42:22

I also think it’s a lovely gesture, as the OP is fond of the boy and it may be that she doesn’t have her own grandchildren, or they are too young/old to go travelling.
A while ago here, I was called very generous for buying my friend’s son an expensive gift for his newborn. The fact was I never expected to be a Grandmother, so my dear friend had always said I could share hers!! That child is now 18, whereas my own DGSs
(who eventually arrived) are only 8 and 4.

Allira Mon 23-Feb-26 18:35:32

Ps you would need to put a $ or two in it for luck.

Allira Mon 23-Feb-26 18:34:58

SORES

justwokeup

I wouldn’t necessarily give money but maybe a useful item - a set of trackers for his keys, luggage, ipad, phone etc - could be useful for a young person. Otherwise something he still needs like a pack away waterproof? Your friend would know.

ipad? phone? luggage?

We bought our own children backpacks
On reflection, it was a mistake!

What about a money/passport wallet Betony? One that goes round the waist, hidden under clothes?

Allira Mon 23-Feb-26 18:33:07

SueDonim

It’s never crossed my mind to do that for anyone’s grandchild and no one has ever done it for my grandchildren. I think it’s a bit odd, but maybe it’s something that happens in other places.

Me neither!

Mind you, mine haven't gone travelling yet, so perhaps some kind friend might do so when, or if, they do. 🙂

I might send a Bon Voyage card

SORES Mon 23-Feb-26 18:24:28

justwokeup

I wouldn’t necessarily give money but maybe a useful item - a set of trackers for his keys, luggage, ipad, phone etc - could be useful for a young person. Otherwise something he still needs like a pack away waterproof? Your friend would know.

ipad? phone? luggage?

Jaxjacky Mon 23-Feb-26 18:12:21

I’d give £50 for a decent meal out before he went!

Doodledog Mon 23-Feb-26 18:07:09

BlueBelle

Doodledog how can you agree with Monica if you are saying just a gift ….Monica says ££100 ??
I think that’s well excessive for a grandchild of someone else

I agree with M0nica that just because others wouldn't give anything there is no reason why the OP shouldn't, and I agree with justwokeup that a gift is a good idea - maybe with some money included if she likes.

I can agree with two people at the same time grin

MandL Mon 23-Feb-26 18:03:32

I think it’s a lovely idea- depending on your budget £50-100?
I’m sure he will really appreciate it 😊

BlueBelle Mon 23-Feb-26 17:59:54

Doodledog how can you agree with Monica if you are saying just a gift ….Monica says ££100 ??
I think that’s well excessive for a grandchild of someone else

Rosie51 Mon 23-Feb-26 17:56:52

I agree M0nica that just because it hasn't occurred to other posters to give a gift is no reason for Betony not to.

When my eldest grandson went to University, we gave him money for freshers week, and so did his uncles and aunts. He finished up with his entertainment budget for the first couple of terms being covered.

I've given to nephews and nieces when they've gone to University or travelling. If you can afford it and want to why not?

Doodledog Mon 23-Feb-26 17:55:28

I agree with M0nica, and also with justwokeup. I think I would get him a gift - maybe a travel wallet or something like that. You could always put a bit of currency in it if you wanted to.

paddyann54 Mon 23-Feb-26 17:46:20

I bought a friends gs a T Shirt with Scottish words on it ,and gave him £200 .he came back after a year away and said the t shirt was constantly on.as it was a great ice breaker .
That was a few years ago now you can buy these online I got his from a cousin who has a printing firm…..maybe I started a trend."lol

M0nica Mon 23-Feb-26 17:46:11

What does it matter whether it has never occurred to other posters to do this. I expect all of us at some time or another do something that it would never occur to anyone else to do.

The OP wants to give this lad, whom she knows well and likes, a little booster to help him on his way. What a lovely idea.

I would give him £100, large enough to be appreciated, not to large to put a burden of gratitude on his shoulders.