Nervous breakdown..

Joan I'm glad things got better for you. I think you are right, in the end we can rely only on ourselves.

joan - jeanin prompted me to scroll down after reading her comment, and I understand completely, and am sorry I hadn't seen your post. Sometimes it is a matter of just 'acting as if' and carrying on. I wish there was a 'good for you' emoticon.

absent quote
'I expect, more often than not, someone is exaggerating'

Actually butty I'll respond to your post as you sounded quite thoughtful. There is often a very fine line between having a 'bad day' and crossing over into suicidal thoughts. It doesn't take all that much to flick the switch. Yes, unresolved emotions are involved, but then there are some things that simply cannot be resolved. Some things cannot get better. Grief over a lost one is a good example. Nothing will bring that person back.
I don't know what time does but it doesn't take the pain away. Perhaps it makes it more manageable. It becomes part of you and if someone offered to take it away, you wouldn't want them to because the pain is the link to the lost one. What you do instead is take the loss along with you, somehow. So having a bad day and feeling you are starting to lose it is quite serious as unresolved emotions start to take hold and things can start to spin out of control. Especially if you have no support system. I said I'd started to feel like 'The Scream'. How many times have you heard people say after a suicide that the person seemed ok? Well that's because people disguise how they're feeling and trundle on until something tips the balance. That's why organisations such as the Samaritans are doing such a good job. People often just need to talk to someone, to ease the pressure, so they can gather together their coping skills and keep going.

Kali please pm me and I'll give you my number. Just a person on the end of the phone. Tis all, but anytime.

Kali

joan

Absent a gentle suggestion - read through the posts, as least the last few, before you jump in with a comment like that 'more often or not, someone is exaggerating' I know you didn't mean it the way it sounded but if anyone is fragile, it coudl break them.

Lots of people, even including the Rolling Stones, use the non-medical term "nervous breakdown" to describe feeling a bit low or fed up. It has a rather Victorian ring about it. Clinical depression, which is a truly horrible place to be, is quite another issue. More often than not someone using that particular expression is exaggerating just as people who talk about being "stressed out" are usually just a tad tired. I wasn't commenting on anyone in particular, least of all the OP.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuxSl_4yLz4

..that was for nellie xx [if it worked ]

Butty you clearly understand exactly what it is. I do think the term is used flippantly at times and that is OK with me as long as it is clear that it is flippant. Here is & in case you need them.

I have 2 issues with whatever terminology is used:

1 When people think it is something the sufferer has control over and think they are exagerating an easy to get over bad spell so don't treat it seriously.

2 When people use the terminology to describe how they are feeling when in fact they have no idea what it is really like to suffer with it.

Butty Thank you for drawing my attention to the earlier post by Joan. I too had missed it.

Joan I totally understand how you must have been feeling.

for all those either posting or lurking who really understand what this is about because they have been there or someone they love dearly has. You know who you are.

I believe that sometime people commit suicide, not because they want to die, but because they can't face living. There is a fine difference.

I am here for you if you need it, any of you.

Yes Movedalot I think you are probably right. Somehow the thought of living must seem so much worse than not being here at all.

Kali Having gone through the hell of suicidal thoughts, your post makes perfect sense. To be in such a lonely locked-in state of mind, is a living nightmare. My heart goes out to anyone who understands what it is I'm trying to convey. You can only understand if you've been there...

If there's something bad going on in your life the worst part of the day is when you wake up in the morning and, as you emerge from the comfort of sleep, the awfullness descends on you. Sometimes you don't actually want to be dead but you just want to stay asleep to avoid that awful moment where unconsciousness turns into consciousness.

Tegan I echo every word of your post. (hug)

I suspect that people almost always commit suicide because they don't want to go on living rather than because they actively want to be dead. I'm not even sure that it's actually possible actively to want death as opposed to not wanting life.

Kali I am sorry to hear that you are not feeling like a tough old boot at the moment and hope you start feeling better – and life starts getting easier and more pleasurable – soon. May I point out that I didn't put "someone" in the sentence you quote in bold and that doing so implies something I never intended.

When I'm in suicide mode it's not really death I'm seeking but oblivion. A sort of non existance if that makes sense.

Vampire ((((hugs))))

Kalihugs to you as we'll
Only one pair of arms though I'm afraid.

vampirequeen and hugs to you as well.
Go and get your teeth into something that you like!

I know what you mean. I've been there.
But unluckily for you I'm still around!

Meant to add

That was a kind and understanding post Jeni let's all hang in there shall we?

Kali Vampirequeen