Grandma very poorly

Thank you all so very much for such lovely comments and practical advice too. The Situation hasn't changed very much except for my grandma has been taken off all pain killers but doctor insists she continues with her water tablets, warfarin and antibiotics (as a precaution) against a what I ask? but never mind. She is drifting constantly between being totally "with it" and holding a short conversation to being "away with the fairies" imagining people being there who are not and crying and mumbling. It is heartbreaking to see her like this. I know she doesn't want to be here anymore and has virtually no quality of life or dignity left compared with only a few weeks ago. Social services are sending two carers three times a day now which is such a relief but she should probably be in hospital. I am terrified that she could end up in a local authority home as haven't heard any good reports of any in in this area sadly. Fortunately I only live 15-20 minutes drive away from her so am going backwards and forwards although I must go to work today for a few hours at least. The doctor said that we could go on like this for weeks or even months! After the last few days I honestly didn't think I would be telling all you lovely people that my grandma was still with us, but she is for now. They obviously made them of stronger stuff in 1916.

Thanks you all so much again for such lovely caring messages. to you all.

Gilly - I been here with both my parents in turn. It is not a good place to be and my heart goes out to you. There comes a point where you just want them to quietly slip away - even though you can hardly believe you are thinking such s thing.

Dear Gillybob I am so sorry to hear of this heartbreaking situation for you and your Grandma. Even in her confused state she will sense you are there with her, talking to her and holding her hand. It's all you can do for her Gilly but you can't do this 24hrs a day. Please, please don't feel guilty that you can't, you are only human but giving her comfort when you can will stay with her. My thoughts are with you both. x

A very difficult time for you gillybob, thank goodness she has carers going in 3 times a day which will give you some peace of mind and an opportunity to get on with all your own things which must be on your mind as well.

I think with her now being in a confused state of mind she may be unaware of how time is passing so what will seem like days or weeks to you may not seem like that to her.

It would be lovely to think we could all just slip away in our sleep when the time comes, but unfortunately it doesn't seem to work that way does it. But comfort yourself by knowing that up until now she has been able to get pleasure from life and share many precious times with you.

Sending best wishes gilly and the strength to carry on, you are a very caring person and your grandma will appreciate you being there for her.

gilly

You are in my thoughts Gilly

Wishing you strength patience and every possible comfort at this hard time. Ypu have clearly.inherited her " strong" genes.

(((hugs))) Gilly

Gilly don't forget to look after you're.f.

Your self!

Gilly Your tales about your Grandma have been inspiring for those of us who dread extreme old age proving that it can be a pleasurable stage of life. I wish your Granma either a speedy return to her old self or a speedy release if that time has come. Sending (((hugs))) for both of you.

gillybob I am still thinking of you both, take care of yourself.