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I think we are all very brave!

(48 Posts)
Mishap Sun 15-Feb-15 20:05:19

Looking at all the different threads on here with people's dreadful aches and pains, and degenerative problems and depressions, I just think we should give ourselves a pat on the back for the way we all face up to these unfortunate concomitants of aging. I think we are just wonderful! Good for us!

rockgran Sun 15-Feb-15 20:46:04

Can't argue with that!

Galen Sun 15-Feb-15 20:56:58

Yip!

merlotgran Sun 15-Feb-15 21:01:44

Nice one, Mishap smile

Brendawymms Sun 15-Feb-15 21:05:25

Getting older is no fun is it. Things get worn out as we get, literally, long in the tooth.

Lapwing Sun 15-Feb-15 21:08:52

I don't always feel brave - sometimes I feel scared about what might be ahead. Then I tell myself not to be such a wuss.

POGS Sun 15-Feb-15 21:18:12

Too true. smile

petallus Sun 15-Feb-15 21:20:55

i find the positive attitude of other Gnetters re. their aches and pains a comfort.

rubylady Sun 15-Feb-15 21:41:09

There's not much alternative but to be positive really. I read scary stuff about one of my heart conditions yesterday online but onwards and upwards.

Enjoy the moment and make it count, even if it's small things, a bulb coming out, a bird on the feeder, Steve being on Corrie winkgrin

Maybe posting makes us feel less croc sometimes and we can loose ourselves in the threads for a while.

But we are all beautiful, with or without illnesses going on. Keep smiling ladies and gents, we are fantastic together. smile

Lapwing Sun 15-Feb-15 21:45:15

Very true Rubylady. I read more than post but find lots of good advice on GN.

annsixty Sun 15-Feb-15 21:47:48

We go on or give in and I know what my choice is.

Ana Sun 15-Feb-15 22:03:32

I think I'm stoical rather than brave. We weren't given a choice, we just have to get on with it!

(Although DD insists that I'm 'brave', bless her! smile)

tanith Sun 15-Feb-15 22:10:08

I second all of that grin

nannieroz111 Sun 15-Feb-15 22:26:01

All you lovely grannetters are helping me to be brave.Thank you. smile

Nelliemoser Sun 15-Feb-15 23:34:08

Rubylady I think I need a good dose of your outlook on this question at the moment.

I dont think bravery is the word, we are just stoical.
As we age we are more likely to get all sorts of bits of us wearing out and causing pain disabilty etc. For a lot of these conditions there is little we can do to prevent, them arthritis and a lot of other conditions are down to our genes.
I am generally well but it seems to me I am having more and more health issues every year which I find concerning. But when I think about what others are putting up with health wise, I should be counting my blessings.

I am sure I am not alone in worrying about how I will be in a few years time.
We carry on and make the most of what we can do because we have to. It is good to have GN on hand when we want a moan or a laugh.

rubylady Mon 16-Feb-15 00:38:39

I was born with heart problems, luckily operated on quickly and then again at 10 years old. I might not have made it though and I have had other things too, pulmonary oedema when I had my son (would have died had I left it another day to tell midwife), three road accidents (I was only driving on one), had a violent husband. I see that if I can get through all this then I owe it to myself to be positive. All I ever wanted with my heart conditions is to get my son to 18. That happens in May. It has been especially important as he has had no-one else apart from me. Sorry if I go over the top when it is his birthday but it will mean a lot. I have another operation to come but want to wait until he is an adult.

I hope I have years left yet (only 50) but with health problems, take each day as it comes, enjoy the little things, be glad of what I have achieved and of surviving the above, be happy and give free hugs. smile

rubylady Mon 16-Feb-15 00:48:19

Nellie Please don't feel guilty for sometimes feeling down about your health, we all do from time to time and even though we know others have it worse, we are still entitled to feel rubbish at times. The difference is to dwell on it as we can't alter it and if we can, then we must do all we can to do that. We must look after ourselves and listen to our bodies, I think so anyway. It's fine doctors saying this and that but I have lived in my body for 50 years now and know it better than anyone. It is only a system. Learn about it and get some knowledge as knowledge is power. I have lost some faith in doctors as they just throw prescriptions at you and let you go off and have another month taking the pills. As long as you don't rattle too many cages then all is fine. So I find things out for myself and then go and rattle some cages. grin

You be how you want to be, I worry from time to time too but then think I've had 50 years so try to look forward to my next stage of my life, having lots of sex with husband no. 2, lol. Well, that's what my mind thinks sometimes, inbetween adverts on Corrie. grin

Keep your chin up love, keep smiling and put some comedy on youtube, have a laugh. Tele can be miserable sometimes so this is what I do, it's important to laugh. X

Falconbird Mon 16-Feb-15 08:51:05

I've had periods of depression and ill health since my DH died in 2012 and my DS was diagnosed with cancer a few months later. My best friend also died in 2012 age 65 and she was a real support for me. My youngest son disowned his family when his dad passed away and has only recently got back in touch.

Grans net has been a real life saver for me, from the serious discussions through to the light hearted discussions about cloths, make-up etc.,

I'm 68 and I never imagined my life would end up as it has, but guess that's not much we can do about anything but keep going.

I think you are all brilliant.

This is for you all flowers

Ariadne Mon 16-Feb-15 09:49:53

Ah, thank you, Falconbird!

I think that Ana is right - the word is "stoical" or, as I've just said on another thread - "getting on with it" because there isn't an option other than curling up and...yes, enough!

But it is comforting to know that you're not the only one with the hip, the knee, the other many illnesses that flesh is heir to, and it often puts one's own woes into perspective, doesn't it?

Soutra Mon 16-Feb-15 10:03:31

Only problem I find is, I meet a friend and ask, "How are you?"
And they tell me shockgrin
Also known as the "organ recital"( and yes, I expect I do it too ) grin

tanith Mon 16-Feb-15 10:07:03

I've been grateful to come here for advise many times and I agree we are all wonderful grin

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 16-Feb-15 10:11:06

these people are brave

Mishap Mon 16-Feb-15 10:20:31

They are indeed jingle - and so are many who plod on with a smile through life's pain. Bravery comes in different guises, and depends on what life throws at you.

After many years working with elderly people I was left marveling at their stoicism and humour.

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 16-Feb-15 10:26:46

Maybe it's good sometimes to compare our lot with that of others. Imagine being old with the aches and pains that come with ageing, and having to flee your home. In a freezing cold country at that. And not being able to take much with you.

kittylester Mon 16-Feb-15 10:37:54

I am filled with admiration for all of you who are so stoical - not sure I would be in the same circumstances as I'm quite a wuss!! flowers