My daughter died ten days ago

We're all here for you. You know that.

A lot of wisdom from Hilda, Alie.

What you are experiencing Alie is perfectly 'normal' given what you've been through, and are still going through. No one can tell you how to grieve, everyone is different.

HildaW is right.

(((Hugs))), Alie. We are all here with you. Look after yourself. Xx

I wish there were words of wisdom I could add to help ease the heartache but like everyone else I can only send ((((hugs)))) and supporting vibes in the hopes it gives you strength to face the day.

I hope today brings you a small, warm ray of sunshine AlieOxon I'm thinking of you and sending heartfelt wishes that just for a while today you find strength to bear the loss of your dearest Jayne As Mishap says, one day at a time. Hugs

I wrote a very melancholy poem, which seems to have helped.....think I let something out.
My grandson at school doesn't want to talk about it to anyone there. He just wants 'to be normal'. Normal is just going to be a bit different.

Thank you everyone for your thoughts. Some of the time I have my head above water and even find something funny.....odd.

NOT odd, that's normal in the surreal situation you're in, finding something funny is a good thing.

DGS is managing in his own way too.

Big hug AlieO, just wish I could do something to help x

It's good to write in stressful times, Alie. As you say it 'lets something out'. There's nothing odd about finding something funny. Grief doesn't mean you lose your sense of humour, even at a time when everything is gloomy. x x x

I agree anno No two people deal with grief in the same way, big {{{hug}}} Alie

Alie Every day at the moment you are in a place you never expected to be with no experience of how to handle it. If you found a moment of humour, well that was what you needed and good for you. I cannot imagine how you must feel at the moment and how you are getting through each new day, but I am full of admiration that you are getting through each new day and my heart goes out to you.

Well said absent. I just wanted to say 'hi' Alie and I hope you have a peaceful day!

I do appreciate all your responses.

Today I am slogging through things like returning a defective alarm clock (it rang once and then stopped completely, and I need to return it before the time runs out!) and getting a new washer for a hose tap otherwise I can't water and will lose plants.......etc etc

All of which is a drag, I am tired and miserable today after a Sunday on which I coped fine until the evening, when I found myself playing solitaire on the PC and running with tears at the same time.
Best to do something.

Tomorrow I go back to Oxford again.

Glad to see you post Alie, you know we are still here. You are doing really well, I'm sure. It is so hard for you.

Alie I wish I had words that would help, a magic wand, all of that. Dealing with the minutiae of daily life, the alarm clock, new washer and so on, are all part of the healing process, getting you through the days. It must be unbelievably hard, and my heart aches for you.
But I too am pleased that you are posting here, reaching out to all of us, who will continue to be here for you. (((hugs)))

I did those things and went shopping too.
I have found some black canna lilies (plants which Jayne loved) in of all places Aldi! and now have to decide what to do with them for the funeral.

Either I plant them in some container I don't have and which will be heavy.......or I cut the flowers and make a bouquet, but I can't do that until Thursday. I think I can put it together ok.

I talked to K on the phone when I came in and he seems to be dealing with a lot of the stuff he needs to do, which is good.

Trying not to think about Friday too much.

We'll be thinking of you on Friday Alie; I hope that the collective thoughts from all of us can give you some strength, not just on Friday but for the journey that you're on .

((Hugs)) Alie will be thinking about you especially on Friday.

Definitely thinking of you Alie x

Sending loving thoughts Allie

Will also be thinking of you on Friday Alie, and beyond xx

Alie . Thinking of you still. Friday will be so difficult for you all.

Black Canna Lilies are beautiful Alie aren't they?

Thinking about you Alie especially today.
sent with love from Juliette.