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Snoring and bad breath ?. Am I being unkind?

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carol58 Sun 27-Nov-16 09:14:11

Opinions please folks! My OH cannot breath through his nose for some unknown reason.After putting up with his twitching in bed when he can't breath, loud snoring and bad breath for ages, I've finally plucked up the courage to tell him (in the kindest possible way I could ) that I can no longer sleep with him unless he goes to GP to get it sorted. The whole situation stops me sleeping at night and I certainly don't want to be breathed on by him! He has obviously taken offence , although he says he hasn't. Am I being unreasonable?

Witzend Tue 29-Nov-16 07:17:52

Dd once had a Saturday job where one of the staff had the most appalling bad breath - perhaps more surprising since she was a very Sloaney type. Apparently she hadn't been to the dentist for years, but was eventually persuaded.

After that visit people were startled to see gaps between her teeth! There had been so much plaque, they had looked very close together. But anyway, that was the end of the bad breath.
Re flossing, etc., my dentist swears by the little brushes, and TBH I don't see how you can clean between teeth properly without them, or with ordinary floss if they're very close together, like a few of mine.

f77ms Tue 29-Nov-16 08:08:13

I wouldn`t/couldn`t put up with someone with bad breath sleeping next to me . You are a saint carole . I would not worry about hurting his feelings just tell him to get to the dentist . He is obviously not bothered about the effect it has on you so separate beds (or houses) until he gets it sorted . xx

Smileless2012 Tue 29-Nov-16 19:59:42

Several years ago because of his terrible snoring that prevented me from sleeping, Mr. S. saw our GP and ended up having surgery on his nose and throat.

I felt terrible when he came back from the hospital all bruised and swollenblush. For a whole year he didn't snore but when he started again it was worse than ever.

More often than not we sleep if separate rooms and at least that way we each get a good nights sleep. You can't ignore it carol, or the bad breath, just try to work around it in a way that pleases you both. Good luckflowers.

carol58 Mon 12-Dec-16 10:08:54

A bit late to reply (I've been / am rather unwell at the mo) but a huge thank you to everyone for you comments and suggestions. I have managed to get him to the gp about the snoring, went with him and presented himself & gp with the facts, including the stinky breath. He wasn't happy but apparently he has a deviated septum that blocks his nose and makes him breath through his mouth. I've been telling him he does that for years but he's always denied it! Was prescribed a nasal spray which has helped marginally, still snoring but not quite as loud! Breath problem still an issue though despite me telling him about it. He initially brushed his teeth for longer than 20 seconds twice a day, still doesn't floss and has now gone back to his old ways. How do you make a grown man deal with this? I've slept in guest room for past 10 nights as unwell ...probably brought on by all those sleepless nights and stress !!! Not keen to return to the shared bed either until he's a lot fresher! Can see this parting us which would be so sad after bringing up a family together.

fiorentina51 Mon 12-Dec-16 10:50:23

That's so sad Carole58, I really hope it doesn't come to that.
My OH has a window rattling snore that has been the bane of my life for years. It started when he put on weight after giving up smoking and has gradually got worse. Last year he caught a tummy bug which caused him to lose a lot of weight. Joy of joys, the snoring stopped!
Sadly it was shortlived as he eventually put all the weight back on and of course the snoring returned.

carol58 Thu 15-Dec-16 12:37:02

Oh dear florentina51 ! I bet you were so peed off when he put the weight back on . Living with a chronic snorer is hell, no matter how much you might love them. Perhaps you'll have to 'arrange' for him to have another tummy bug hehehe....that was a joke by the way? !

fiorentina51 Thu 15-Dec-16 15:00:36

Ha! It's worth considering! ?