Hi everyone
I am new to Gransnet so please let me know if this post is in the right place or not!
I had to take early retirement a number of years ago due to ill health.
For a lot of the time I ended up looking after my grandsons who were babies back then, through till picking them up from school etc. They thought I was the best grandma ever!
Fast forward to 2015 and the grandsons are in secondary school so I no longer pick them up from school or see them on a regular basis. I understand they have lots of things they are doing now that they are teenagers.
I also found out in early 2016 that I had an incurable brain problem which has been the major cause of my ill health and the cause of my rapid hearing loss.
I also have a muscle disorder that was diagnosed just previous to my early retirement. So the 2 problems have reduced my quality of life considerably and I have to use a wheelchair to get out of the house.
I spent most of 2016 attending hospital of tests, apps, treatments etc.
I told my daughter that I could no longer have my grandsons stay over night but they could come over for the afternoons because by this time I could no longer get dressed, shower or make food for myself and I was in a major relapse.
As expected she did not take this well because it interfered with her and husband's busy social life.
I did not see my grandsons for 5months, but this is not a new issue and has been used many times in the past as her way of punishing me for not bending to her every whim!
Up until the last 18months I had always done everything I could to help her but now that I have told her I need time to take care of myself instead of being understanding she has taken to being verbally abusive. She has always had a very short temper.
I have explained to her that I need to have a life for myself and try and get out with my friends(who have still stuck by me through all this). I went on holiday in 2013 for one week(my friends looked after me). Daughter was really angry because it took me weeks to recover!
I have been telling her for years that I have a right to have a life as well(albeit not a very healthy one at the moment) but she does not agree. She thinks I should spend all my energy being a grandma.
Does anyone else have this type of problem or has anyone got any advice?!
Thanks for reading and sorry it's a long post
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