DH in such pain!

Just leave the house work. Most important now is to look after your own health and of course that of your husband. Hoping and praying that you all have a good outcome.

Well I hope you have a good night's sleep and tomorrow brings better news. Take care.

There has been no operation to date but the tests indicate infection which they are hitting with strong antibiotics. He has been on a drip for 4 days so far. Just pray with me that that will sort it out and there will be no need for surgery. The surgeon said that would be the last resort.
Little sis has already gone home. She doesn't do domestic duties, but I didn't ask for help and she clearly has her own problems and lots on her mind. Nuff said. I have left her bed made up and told her that is so that she can come for another visit if she wants to very soon. We shall see. She needs more than I can give just at the moment.
Cleaner unwell and not coming again so I have left a message with a cleaning company I have used previously so hopefully someone will get back to me soon. The house is ok but I just don't want it to need anything major and I can't do it myself anyway. I am trying to keep a good routine and do something and then rest for a while, pacing they tell me. I am so fortunate to have everything I need and my freezer, fridge and cupboards full. DH in pretty good spirits even though I have not been in to see him for two days as I háve no energy to do it but we are both on the same network so I can ring him on the mobile whenever I want as the calls are free. It is a waiting game now.

I hope something can be done to ease your husband's pain. Best wishes to both of you.

Dear Synonomous, you were wise to call DH's dr to get much needed help for him. I hope they find the reason he is in such pain and can treat it. So happy your little sister could come to stay with you. It will give you a much needed bit of rest to have her there with you.
Hope DH is on the mend very soon.
Hugs to you, your DH and your sister.

A big thanks to all Gransnet posters who give so much support and good advice. You provide a comfort to all in need of sage advice.

Oh gosh just catching up on this - really hope the assessment goes well and they don't operate unnecessarily but if your husband is in so much pain it might be the best option to sort it out once and for all. Hope you managed to get some sleep last night and your sister is on hand to give you some TLC too!

Only just seen this thread Synonymous what a time you have both had!
Make sure that you know exactly what is happening with your DH in the hospital, also try and get as much rest as you can while he is in there.

Sometimes a hospital visit is the best catalyst to get things properly sorted out, and the pain under control. As long as you are not making a constant fuss, you are likely to assumed to be managing things comfortably.

Hope you get some positive news today synonymous, hospital readmissikns do tend to have us looking on the negative side. I’m really pleased your sister is with you for support. Hang on in there.

In a way I am glad he is back in hospital and I hope he is well looked after. Try to get some rest yourself. I hope it's not too far a journey to the hospital. All the best.

Synonimous - I hope that your OH gets something sorted soon.

Oh dear Synonymous. It is the not knowing that is worst. Hoping that the doctors are sorting him out. Use your sister's time with you to rest and De stress as much as possible. Thinking of all of you caring for a loved one.

Positive vibes from me too synonymous I know how a hospital readmission can be both depressing and a relief st the same time.
I hope the nil by mouth is just a precaution and am sure they will look at every option before any action taken, but if there is a bone infection I imagine the fear is that it might spread.
Good luck anyway and I am glad you have company and family support.

Hang on in there Syn. So glad sister has appeared. Hope all goes well. . . . For you and DH.

Little sis has arrived! Going to bed now and hoping for a positive day tomorrow today. Thank you for kind messages. x

I'm sorry your husband is having such a rough time, synonymous. Hopefully they are just covering all angles by having the theatre booked, though I suspect a bone infection is a serious issue, if that's what is causing the pain. How awful for you both.

So sorry that things have taken another turn Synonymous and at the moment you do not know if is for the better.
I hope you get some answers tomorrow.
It is a very worrying time for you both and I suspect not for the first or last time.
All best wishes to you both.

I am so sorry to hear that, Synonymous.
I hope you get some rest tonight and that there is better news tomorrow. Take care.

DH back in hospital today. I am relieved in one way but concerned about all the ramifications.
I am hoping that DH won't sign any consents to do anything until there are proper consultations which will include me. He was sent to a specialist to rebuild the ankle and now as far as I can understand they are talking about undoing all that work. I understand that there is possibly infection as they have sent samples which will take 48 hours to culture and yet they have booked a theatre slot and ordered nil by mouth from midnight tonight. He is on an antibiotic drip so why are they not waiting to see if that does the job before getting the knives out? I feel like we are being shoved towards getting on a runaway train and I just want an itinerary before we can't get off. It has been a very long day and all very worrying!

I'm not sure of the exact circumstances but I just wanted her to be aware there are options that could help and quite right, get the facts and see what is out there. Just felt so sorry to hear their struggle.

Can you get Carers’ Allowance AND Attendance Allowance? I understood the former was for those below pensionable age to compensate for loss of earnings and the latter for you once you reach pension age. (?)
I may be wrong of course , you could check with a quick phone call to AGE UK

Does he get attendance allowance, certainly sound like he should and then followed by carers allowance for you, this could fund private carers who would help enormously with shopping cooking cleaning etc and personal care, he probably feels terrible that this is putting so much on you esp as he knows your needs first hand.
Definitely ask for home visits, you must cut out the stress to yourself and the idea of people coming to help by watching you cook is ludicrous, you need and deserve more help so you can at least enjoy your time without it being all about the hard practical things. I also think like others there are other probs with the leg as the healing of it seems to be going the wrong way

Yes agree with Durham Jan. I think this leg needs reviewing. Perhaps there is an undiagnosed fracture or a DVT. Please stress that the pain has become worse.
Wishing you all the best, today.

Star bird you just pipped me to the post My Dad used Wilshire for his main meal, their menus were extensive they were not expensive and all he had to do was microwave them He said they were really tasty About a year before he died when he was having trouble being on his feet too much he heard about a local scheme called Grandmas kitchen and they were similar prices to Wiltshire but delivered loving hot food at his chosen time they really were yummy and he enjoyed the five minutes banter with the lady who delivered it to his table they also did teas which he had on special occassions there was enough for two teas!! and he had a reasonable appetite
These might be a help temporarily just while you are both under the weather
Xx

There are also other companies which do meals, like Wilshire Foods. I can't remember which one my mum settled on, but they also delivered other shopping too. All of the basics, and the cost wasn't too bad. Their menu included more pasta type dishes, etc, which we found better.