Narcissistic Personality Disorder - how to cope?

Does that make any difference? The OP needs legal advice and that is just one of several places she can seek it.

Interesting. Which is more cruel: quadriplegia or severe mental illness that is undiagnosed? In recent months the media have been attempting to get the public to accept that there is as much mental illness as physical, and there is no shame in disordered thinking.

My sister-in-law had to keep returning to her doctor, and when eventually the medics diagnosed her dementia, when she asked to go on a clinical trial to attempt to slow the disease, her condition was too far gone.

My friend's greatest regret is that she wasted 35 years of her life being married to someone with undiagnosed NPD: a long time to suffer psychological abuse.

The government is now in the process of amending the bill to protect abused women to include psychological damage.

The great majority of women prisoners are suffering from undiagnosed mental conditions.

I am simply attempting to assist our very small community of 4 flats from injustice and defamation, just as I am doing for myself now, in this forum.

Sorry but you are diagnosing dementia and personality disorder and I really believe this to be unfair

No one is arguing that mental illness isn't a serious matter. What many of us don't like about your approach is how you are trying to mix in amateur diagnoses with what are straight forward legal matters. Stick to facts not speculation.

Dementia is not a mental illness

I know Anniebach I was just trying to summarise my objections!

Sorry .Jane , I was explaining to Heckter not you

Hekter, from your posts it seems that 1 person in your community is on the "Narcissists" side, one neighbour who doesn't wish to get involved and the other we don't know about. It only seems to be you who is upset at this Company Secretary's actions. Forgive me if I have summarised this incorrectly. I am not doubting that the CS has the traits you say but that doesn't necessarily make them a narcissist which is a very serious accusation. It seems there are a lot of people who have responded with similar thoughts so that might just be something to consider before you start feeling defamed on this forum. Whatever the rights or wrongs of the situation though, I do hope you get the flood situation sorted out so you can relax about that.

Well, I am still rather as to the point of this thread.

Is it to discuss the legal position re the flats or is it to discuss personality disorders?

Jalima1108 Me too, which is why I keep returning despite my better judgement.

Missfoodlove I'm on your side as I to suffered at the hands of a narcissistic mother and if you haven't had the misfortune to experience it, then you can't really judge.
I was subjected to what I would term mental abuse as an only child with my NPD mother. Not to bore you all to much detail this is a small example.

I was constantly told I was to be sent away to boarding school. This upset me and made me cry and I would beg her not to. When I reached around 9 I realised money was needed for boarding school and she would always tell me there wasn't any. I said 'yes' I would like to go. This had the desired effect and the threats ended.
My mothers form of punishment was to ignore me, not for an hour or even a day but for days and sometimes a week at a time. After many attempts by me to literally get down on my knees and beg forgiveness she would forgive but never forget as she told me. I never knew by the way what I had done. I would leave for school she'd say bye, I'd come home and she wouldn't talk to me.

Armed with my latest knowledge I decided that instead of begging forgiveness I wouldn't do it anymore and hopefully she would stop constantly ignoring me.

Well this backfired in spectacular fashion and she never spoke to me again in a friendly manner until I'd left school and was at work.

There is so, so much more but she was queen and me and my dad were her surfs.

overthehill that is very sad to read. I do hope your life is happier now.

Yes sorry Jalima we have hijacked your thread. I sympathise you have to deal with such people.

Unfortunately they will never see your point of view, they are always right

Thank you Humpty yes I am very happy now since I met my second husband age 26 my life changed for the better. My difficult childhood did affect my teenage years but luckily it made me strong and self-sufficient

I pity the solicitor who takes this matter on from the bottom of my heart.

Yes sorry Jalima we have hijacked your thread. I sympathise you have to deal with such people.
It's not My Thread and I hope other posters realise that overthehill and all others.

I don't have anyone like that to deal with, thank goodness.

Someone called Heckter is the OP.

ps but I am sorry that you had such an awful upbringing and dreadful mother , I cannot imagine what that must have been like as a young child.