Stroke

I have read ( and re-read) all the comments while sitting in waiting rooms this morning and I can honestly say you are the kindest most loveliest people, ever . X
DH has had 3 scans ( MRI and 2 CT scans on head and neck ) no bleeds or clots detected ( consultant said small clots sometimes very hard to detect ) he is having another scan in a weeks time . His BP is very high ( which Consultant is saying coukd possibly be the underlying cause) he is also saying he is saying he is very lucky (really???) as seems to have only effected his speech (mainly slurring and struggling to find words ) and a slight droop on the R/H side . Both Much improved today from even yesterday . Consultant saying his overall fitness might have saved his life ! Also confirmed that it was a full stroke (not a mini) as numbness , speech etc. did not stabilised within 24 hours. Happy to discharge with mountains of tablets ( anti coagulation, blood pressure, statins... ) this is a man who has barely taken a paracetamol in his life !

We don’t know what to do about work yet DH can’t drive until he gets an all clear (has to go a month with no additional symptoms) which will have a massive impact on Work as he’s usually all over the country. I will have to go in once I get DH settled at home this afternoon as I Have had mountains of texts and emails from suppliers ( after money ) employees , customers etc . And honestly don’t know where to start ???? Wish I could win the lottery and I would make one phone call to my accountant right now !
Anyway upwards and onwards .
Thank you again you lovely people .

Sounds like 'good' news, gilly. You might feel that now is the time to rethink your lives but, in the meantime, make sure you look after yourself especially. Your DH will have lots of people looking after him.

Keep talking to us.

And, on a lighter note, how was C2c - did you get to see much? I was very envious!

And I told you gn was good for waiting rooms!

Better news from you gilly I am sure we all pray it will continue to go well.
Just remember though, you cannot do everything yourself, you need help and advice about the business, you and your husband are far more important.
Lots of good wishes winging your way.??

The very best of luck to you both. Your husband has been lucky but it probably doesn’t feel like it!

That doesn’t sound as I had intended! . Hope life starts to improve soon.

Good wishes from me too. So sorry this has happened. I'm absolutely sure you'll cope though. Cliché time again but it's always darkest before the dawn.

Thank goodness the news is good - relatively.

I remember your thread some months ago about the pressures you are both under; and it simply did not sound sustainable. There is always a way through these things once the right decision is taken. The impossible can seem possible with the right mindset that unlinks itself from the thought habits of a lifetime.

Both my OH and I "jumped off the wheel" at various points in our careers because our quality of life was so poor. We became poor in a different way! - but never regretted it; especially now that OH has PD and our futures have been blighted by ill health.

I cannot add anything to all these wise messsages, except to say I feel for you. My DH had his first stroke 10 years ago and 3 more since. He is aphasic like your husband and has trouble with finding words and also understanding speech. A little known result of stroke is the loss of literacy. He can barely read and write but there is so much you can do now with technology and he can do speech to text to write emails and use the reverse to read replies. My advice is to take all the help that is offered, especially in terms of therapy because it is always short term. Feel free to PM if there is anything I can do to help.

Good news Gilly .
Try to think of the experience as a timely warning that he needs to look after his health - especially blood pressure and cholesterol level. Like me.
He should have regular checks of both.

I suspect he will be well monitored now gilly once the initial tests etc have been gone through. You job will be to make sure he keeps appointments!

Pleased to hear the consultant was happy to let him go home which must be a relief. Hopefully the medication will help to bring his BP down and his speech improve. No driving for a month will mean he has to slow down - literally - which might be a good thing. It will give you both a chance to evaluate where you go from here. Take care of yourself too - being a carer for him and keeping the ship afloat will be pretty stressful.

I have just seen this thread Gilly and am so sorry to hear of your troubles. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through.
As everyone has already said, please take care of yourself.

Better news gilly, even so can’t imagine how it feels right now. Hope you can both get a reasonable nights sleep. Please think of yourself too. Sending love to you both.

gilly I've only just seen this and I'm so sorry this has happened to your dh. You must feel overwhelmed. Get as much help as you can.
Sending a big (((hug))).

Well I have just come out of the shower (DH was pottering as usual at about 6) and he’s disappeared with a note on the bed saying “gone to work on the metro”.
To say I’m furious is an understatement! I would be ready in less than half an hour. It will take him nearly 20 minutes to walk to the metro station especially in the high winds we have here today. Then a further 15 minutes at the other end !
The man was only discharged from hospital yesterday after having a stroke for goodness sake ! He’s not well . Instructed by consultant to “take it easy” etc. This is going to be very hard as he’s obviously out to prove something . Make him slow down? What a laugh. I’ll end up murdering him by the weekend .

Just been told down the phone ( well what I could hear because of the really high winds) that “ he is not an invalid “ and doesn’t want to be treat like one !

Oh dear gilly like me you have a tough job.
I will share my frozen leg of lamb with you, my H was up and dressed at 3:30am. I persuaded him to go back to bed, which he did until 6:30am, we have carers coming in at 11 to wash and dress him, they are obviously redundant now.
Seriously your H is being very foolish and risking being ill again, you must get your GP to point out the perils to him.

Oh, gilly - I'd murder him too!!

You are going to have your work cut out. Can your daughter try emotional blackmail along the lines of 'dont you want to live long enough......'

He's probably in denial right now but, even after 10 years, DS gets really tired so hopefully your Dh will get tired and realise the seriousness of the event.

Gillybob, you must be worried sick about your husband. I have no words to make you feel better, but you know that everyone on here will listen to your worries and try to support you.
Your poor husband will be in denial and probably quite frightened if he has never really been ill before. On top of that, he will be worrying about your business and your employees. That doesn't help you at all and you need all the support you can get. Is there no family member who can help?
Please speak to your GP for advice.
Take care.

DD tried last night kitty She was in tears saying “ you need to do as your told because I need you better to help with the baby when it arrives ( early May) “. He said he would be fine and she just shrugged because she knows what he’s like . I knew he was stubborn and very worried about work but this is beyond a joke and will just end up knocking him back .

What can you do with these stubborn men?

Lord above! This man is his own worst enemy; and not making your life easier either - maybe that is the way to go. Tell him he will make you ill too if he does not listen to what he has been told. Throw a wobbly - weep and rant. I do not envy you this task of getting him to take this seriously.

Has he taken the medication before he went out? Has he got it with him?

Having him ill is worry enough without his reckless behaviour.

I can only send [flowers[ and lots of good wishes.

Exactly lucky he is on 3 sets of new tablets having barely taken a paracetamol for donkeys years and under instructions to relax and take it easy until his follow up appointment . Imagine what the consultant would say? He’s back at the hospital tomorrow for bloods etc. as one of his tablets is apparently quite new and doesn’t suit everyone so they need to keep a close eye. He was very ill many years ago (almost died) and had major surgery etc. But since then I really think that he thinks he’s invincible and it’s like he spits in the eye of illness !

Let us hope it does not spit back gilly - what a worrying time for you.

Gilly I ve only just caught up and I m really really sorry to hear this PLEASE don’t make yourself ill worrying about him though as you simply cannot do anything with someone so stubborn and headstrong except pick the bloodily pieces up
I d make sure the hospital know when you go tomorrow that he’s not resting unfortunately he’s making a rod for your back by not taking any advice
Good luck on this one but do think of you as well as him and do what you knows best with a sensible head sometimes these stubborn people’s outcome are good whereas others who follow the rules aren’t he may be a lucky one
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