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An Attitude of Gratitude & Depression

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Sparklefizz Tue 20-Nov-18 08:56:43

Can being thankful, and actually saying "Thank you" help to ease depression? I suppose it's what our grandparents used to say: "Count your blessings". I personally think it works.

www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-6407319/How-saying-thank-help-ease-depression.html

oldbatty Wed 21-Nov-18 17:17:48

I disagree entirely.

1. People who decide, with their doctors input, to tail off antidepressant medication are not like drug addicts going cold turkey.

2.How do you know that these symptoms are worse than the original illness, since nobody can see inside another person's head and a lot of depressives are very skillful at covering up?

3.Where is the research to back up your claim that depression returns with a vengeance?

Please consider what you are saying.

janeainsworth Wed 21-Nov-18 17:18:29

notanan the NHS website says that although antidepressants are not classified as addictive, coming off them suddenly can cause severe withdrawal symptoms, so I think you are being unfair to ellanv to accuse her of ‘scaremongering’.
NHS advice here

notanan2 Wed 21-Nov-18 17:25:18

janeainsworth
My post is pretty much in line with that NHS advice is it not?

janeainsworth Wed 21-Nov-18 17:31:19

But "antidepressants are addictive" is simplistic and dangerous scaremongering.

It was that part of your post I was responding to, notanan
‘Scaremongering’ seemed to me an unjustified accusation given the very real dangers of suddenly stopping antidepressants.

MissAdventure Wed 21-Nov-18 17:32:28

I think the jury is out on whether its dangerous to stop antidepressants.

oldbatty Wed 21-Nov-18 17:36:07

Nobody advises suddenly stopping anti depressants.

Also nobody , unless they are a qualified doctor with up to date knowledge ,ought to be on a public forum giving out advice.

People who suffer from depression are not akin to drug addicts.

notanan2 Wed 21-Nov-18 17:36:30

janeainsworth the WHOLE rest of my post which you ignore was about how support is needed to come off antidepressants...as the NHS advice says.

Yea it is "simplistic" to just say antidepressants are addictive. Its more complex than that, again, as the NHS advice says. It is also a dangerous statement as it stigmatizes. More resources need to go into monitoring and weaning once people are ON antidepressants, that does not mean that people in crisis should be scared of starting them.

oldbatty Wed 21-Nov-18 17:43:39

I hate the terminology " on antidepressants" Nobody says " on statins" or " on insulin".

We are not " on" anything. We have been unwell and we have been prescribed medication, just the same as everybody else who finds themselves feeling ill.

notanan2 Wed 21-Nov-18 17:56:09

Nobody says " on statins" or " on insulin".
Um. Yeah the do???

notanan2 Wed 21-Nov-18 17:56:22

"they"

janeainsworth Wed 21-Nov-18 17:59:18

-oldbatty People who suffer from depression are not akin to drug addicts.
No one has said that depression equates to drug addiction, only that coming off antidepressants or some painkillers can produce withdrawal symptoms in the same way that stopping addictive drugs or alcohol or tobacco can produce withdrawal symptoms.
Nobody says " on statins" or " on insulin".
Of course they do. If anyone asked me if I took any medication I’d say ‘I’m on thyroxine’. Being ‘on’ a drug doesn’t apply only to antidepressants.

MissAdventure Wed 21-Nov-18 18:03:48

I find it quite embarrassing to say that I'm on antidepressants because I'm aware that some people think I should be journaling, dancing like nobody's watching, counting my blessings, and so joining the u3a

notanan2 Wed 21-Nov-18 18:07:11

u3a

Ah. Yes. The solution to all loneliness, grief, and depression.. "just put yourself out there"

Ugh.

andycameron69 Wed 21-Nov-18 18:09:13

stella i so agree, I have a gratitude book in which I start every sentence...I am grateful for.... had it for years and I still look back at all my notes. I find it amazing, thank you for sharing. best wishes Andy

GabriellaG Wed 21-Nov-18 18:41:12

Can we stop talking about antidepressants and addiction to same?
I thought it was a thread about thankfulness, not about medication and whether depression is a mindset or an illness.
Half the world seems to be depressed or anxious nowadays and it's making me depressed to read about it...smile please. grin

MissAdventure Wed 21-Nov-18 18:42:29

grin
I'm thankful you reminded me.
Ta!

GabriellaG Wed 21-Nov-18 18:45:43

That's cool MissA'. grinflowerscupcakecafe

Barmeyoldbat Wed 21-Nov-18 19:16:01

I sometimes get 'low' but not depressed. When I was seeing my Dr years ago about tiredness and dreadful aches and pains he tried to tell me I was depressed and he could prescribed some medications. I told him my brain and thoughts were full of life, and no I wasn't depressed. Turned out to be PBC, a life long liver problem.. I do find that helping people or being pleasant to people helps me from getting down.

GabriellaG Wed 21-Nov-18 19:32:48

This made me smile this morning. Rescued from Tesco on it's last legs, given showers, baby bio and tlc, it rewarded my efforts with this gorgeous display of colour. I said 'thank you' as it reminded me that even the ugliest duckling can be a swan once a year.

GabriellaG Wed 21-Nov-18 19:33:22

*plant

Tillybelle Wed 21-Nov-18 19:35:32

Sparklefizz Sorry haven't been online to read the article yet ;-
The idea of "Count your blessings". I.e. focus on good things, is really a kind of simplified Cognitive Therapy. In Aaron Beck's Cognitive Therapy of Depression, he notes how Depression - the Clinical kind - is accompanied by an inability to naturally draw on happy memories. It makes us remember when things went wrong. It is not the depressed person's fault and they do not do it on purpose.
So an attitude of gratitude will help if you start to acknowledge the little things that make your life better. It is one step towards getting out of the pit. Being clinically depressed though is a very horrible illness and just telling someone to be thankful for what they've got may be a very cruel approach. Some people simply cannot do it. If you are just a bit down in the dumps though, it is a good way to start lifting yourself up.

Tillybelle Wed 21-Nov-18 19:37:34

notanan2. I love you!! grin

Tillybelle Wed 21-Nov-18 19:48:43

MissAdventure. I'm on amitriptyline to prevent migraine and morphine for pain. I tried to cut down the amitriptyline, a try-cyclic anti depressant that preceded the SRIs, and just felt miserable.
I have a friend who sends me lists of U3A, poetry groups, tells me it's not good that I'm on my own then moans about the people she sees each day, and constantly is trying to get me to be someone else.
I understand you! brew
I love - going to bed early with the dogs! There's nobody to tell me it's wrong!

oldbatty Wed 21-Nov-18 19:59:08

The terminology may be the same but the hushed tones/embarassment is specific to being " on " antidepressants.

Nobody is out and proud on anti depressants.

Hm999 Wed 21-Nov-18 20:02:55

I think looking for the good things in life can slow the onset of depression, but I also believe that someone being sunny and helpful all the time will eventually look around and say 'Why am I making all the effort?'