OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Lucky I am so pleased to read your latest update. What a tremendous relief it must be for you both that he is now somewhere calm, somewhere he will be properly cared for, with someone in charge who knows him and his needs. And away from the awful, frenetic and uncaring environment he was in before.

I hope you will now be able to relax this evening, get an early night and a decent amount of restorative sleep. Love and (((hugs))) to you xxx

So much better lucky, you’ve done so well to get your husband to a calm space. Sleep well, you deserve to.

Pheeew- so glad for you all. Hope you get some sleep tonight x

I am so pleased he has been moved and the atmosphere is totally different. I am ever hopeful he will have a night's sleep and he will be cared for.

I hope that you have been able to eat some food and you also manage to settle down and get a night's sleep. It has been hell on earth this last week for both of you.

At least there will not be a frenetic rush to get there tomorrow- you can take your time because you know he is being cared for.

You must be so relieved, Luckygirl. Hope you manage to sleep and that tomorrow is less stressful.

Excellent news after such a stressful week. At last he's somewhere calm and he's being taken care of. You must be exhausted so try to get some sleep. x

That is a relief for you and the family.

I hope you manage to get a good night's sleep knowing that he is now in safe hands.

What relief you must feel Lucky, now that you can slip back into your 'wifely' role, rather than trying to police Mr. Lucky's care.

A possible down side of this may be that you feel slightly more emotional as you process all that's happened recently; it wouldn't be in the least surprising as I suspect you've been running on adrenaline for quite some time. Be kind to yourself and take care.

I echo what ga said, lucky. I expect you will feel very tired now so great as much as possible.

I can only echo what others have said. What a relief though. I hope he (and you!) can have a calmer more restful time and recover from the trauma of the past week.

That's good, lucky, and thank goodness!

Same here Lucky you must be so relieved, hope things continue to get better for both of you.

Today will hopefully be calmer for both of you and once he starts to get his medicines on time again he will be more lucid.

From now you will be going as a visitor, not as a full time carer in a hospital.

Luckygirl I’m delighted to hear your husband has been moved to a better, calmer ward, and that you have faith in his PD Consultant. I do hope this will provide the much needed comfort you will both need in the weeks to come.

How are things today Luckygirl?

I will see him later this morning with all 3 DDs, as one is returning up north today and we thought it would be good for him to see his whole gaggle of girls together.

He is slightly less confused on the new medication. But he is asleep most of the time, which may of course relate to the meds. He has not been out of bed yet, which is fine. Not standard procedure for someone whose hip has been replaced, but the right thing for OH, for whom rehab would be lots of pain for very little gain, if any. It is the right decision, but hard.

So pleased to see things are now going smoothly Lucky. I think you can be hopeful now that his recovery will be steady, going in the right direction. Thank heavens he is now under the care of someone who recognises that aftercare for a hip replacement is not 'one size fits all'.

I do hope he enjoys seeing his 'gaggle of girls' today

Morning lucky. I'm glad things seem calmer now. I'm sure it will give your DH a boost to see all his girls together.

It must be so comforting to have your girls around you both and he's going to get a boost from seeing you all today.

So glad to hear you'll all be together today - even if he is sleepy, I'm sure he will be fully aware that you are all around him. xxx

Everything sounds so much better , gentle rehab is the way to go , not gung ho like the other ward they were going to send him to .

Thank you for giving updates Luckygirl and glad he is more settled. We have been worrying with you

We have indeed Lazigirl. Have a good visit and enjoy each other's company Luckygirl. Then have a relaxing evening if at all possible.

Very difficult morning with him. He is quietly and continuously paranoid - e.g. would not let me put his earpieces in so he could listen to his iPod - he thought I was trying to strangle him.

But he is also saying he does not want to eat or drink and wants to be left in peace. He just wants pieces of chocolate every now and again.

Which of these is the "real" OH? Is it him who is saying please just let me go now? - or is it the paranoia? Either way his future quality of life is going to be so poor, I feel we should make the decision to go with his wishes and let him go. It is agony and feels like a huge responsibility.

Luckygirl, please do look after yourself too. I'm glad the hospital are easy to get on with.

Best wishes for your OH's recovery.