Black dog gang

Good morning all. Maggie what do you find helps you work through your morning anxiety ?

BlueSky go girl , hold onto being positive x

After going into my garden 7 times in two days I made plans for my garden so I would feel comfortable going out there and sitting there as I use to do before the agoraphobia hit me. Younger granddaughter, my only visitor wanted to learn about planting tubs and was going to the garden centre for bedding plants for us to do together.
Her car has broken down, may be several weeks before she has it back. I will miss her so much , she brings laughter, she also does things in the house which I can’t because I have little use of my hands.

So I am sad, seems I may not have my garden as planned .

Like you Annie, getting outside helps. I'm off with my beloved JRT now. I like my garden too and am sorry your plans are on hold at the moment. Are you unable to leave the house at all?

Morning all. Annie that’s a shame about your granddaughter I will come and help you Annie I like my garden. Keep having a walk out there Annie. Just think what you would say to us if we were where you are now.. you give the best advice.. sending warm hugs. X

Oh Annie what a pity! Does your granddaughter live far away? Could she still visit you without the use of her car? You are so understanding to others when you've had more than your share of heartache. Hope you will still be able to have the garden as you wish. Keep planning!

I am so sorry to hear that Annie I do hope your granddaughter gets to see you.

Perhaps a neighbour or friend could step in Annie? It's such a great idea.

Maggie no, not able to leave the house - yet

Joce I will keep walking out there ,not going to take a step back .

BlueSky my granddaughter lives 50 miles from here and transport in Mid Wales isn’t great.

Dragonfly she will get here when she can, it took her a 3 hour train journey on Friday to get to her university to get books from the library, then 3 hour return journey, no trains here.

Lilly, I live in a Cul de sac of sheltered housing, many here need carers.

Right, I have ordered potting compost from my milkman, am now going to order bedding plants on line. Will find a way to plant them. ?

Annie that is great, you are an example to us all! So sorry your granddaughter is suffering without her car - can her dad not help?

Sorry everyone, I think my last ramble was not clear. I wasn't talking about those who are ill having a worse than normal day or even those who are ill and having a bad day. I meant those who appear in all other respects to be well but make such a fuss over, apparently, nothing and wail that they are depressed. Still not putting it very well and still don't want to be unsympathetic but it does sometimes feel that people claim depression when it is only a short term difficulty and not what we all are going through. It feels as if that minimises the illness.

Well done Annie! I was going to suggest on line shopping.
Keep it up my inspiration!
Had a very bad night, awake for most of it, so of course at 6 I went off sound and woke at 10 feeling very groggy.
If anyone has a DAB radio with a headphone socket, I find that my (very comfortable) in ear headphones allow me to listen to radio4 extra and the world service during the night which helps to pass those wakeful worrying hours - and I have learnt some very interesting things!

Good for you Annie your granddaughter will be back ASAP I’m sure.. till then we are all hear for you ?

MaggieTulliver I was so touched by your post and really do feel for you, I can tell you're suffering so it's really good that you've posted. I'm also new to this thread but have already found people to be very supportive and comforting in their responses, there's a lot of strength to be found when we're understood by others. I suffer from depression and anxiety and I've often thought I wish I wasn't here but, same as you, love for my family prevents me. I'm retired and have my husband so I am fortunate in that sense. He does however also suffer with very low moods and anxiety which, because we're together a lot can be difficult for both of us (to 'lift each other'). Also, it can be an incredibly lonely time when the nest empties, and I too have had the feeling that life is now over. It seems to be a very 'normal' reaction to grieve the 'loss' of our children but that doesn't make it any easier ? I'm glad to hear you still work and that you have your dog though, their unconditional love is such a comfort I think. We're planning to get a rescue dog in the great hope that showering him or her with love and affection will help allieviate this feeling of being of 'no value'. Hope it helps for you to know that you're not alone. Warm hugs and I'm thinking of you xxx

Thank you Dawn22 yes I get the feeling I'm definitely not alone with this anymore ... such a great comfort to know others are just a message away

Yes CanOnlyTry we are all here for each other.

eilyann thank you

dragonfly ????

CanOnlyTry, thank you so much for your kind words. I can't recommend getting a rescue dog highly enough. Mine is a rescue and has been a total joy. He's nearly 12 and I'm thinking about getting another one. It's so good to find a group of women who are so mutually supportive. Just as good as therapy and antidepressants What are you all doing this evening?

Maggie I am just in watching tv til bedtime at 10. Hope everyone has a good night. It’s Sunday tomorrow which I find the worst day of the week!

Enjoy your evening Dragonfly. My lovely friend has added me to her Sky account so I can watch Game of Thrones season 8. This is a great distraction for me and really helps calm my anxiety! I know what you mean about Sundays. Do you have anything planned?

Hello all x

I couldn’t be without dogs, mine sleep with me, I chat to them as I settle to sleep and on waking.

Dragonfly,I know you don’t like Sundays, we will be herex

eilyan thought I was sorted with my bedding plants until i
remembered I couldn’t kneel to do the planters, grrrr, then a lightbulb moment , went on a local site for our town , have hired a trestle table .

Can’t have a DAB radio here, after I listen to the midnight news I settle to sleep, sometimes play the alphabet game .
Awake until 6,00am must be wretched .

Joce thank you, and we are here for you to x

I am going to play Killer Sudoku now, and text elder granddaughter in Cornwall to check all is well with her .

Maggie do get another rescue dog x

CanOnlyTry yes the empty nest is miserable, when both my daughters had married I kept going into their bedrooms when I went to bed, not sensible, so I moved house .

Stay strong my friends x

I do have a few hobbies but find it hard to concentrate some times. I have a love for rag dolls so thought I would try making one, guess what I am now on with making my 3rd one, I am quiet pleased with them. I do find it hard to say how I feel not very good at talking about it but still love the support I get off hear. The dreaded empty nest horrible felling, for me not so bad now my girls live near me son is near so now I have my grandchildren and they keep me going.. stay strong every one ?

I miss my darling daughter so much, she was my best friend. But I had my grandchildren, admit I find it lonely since they moved last year but it was best for them. I love cross stitching, can’t watch tv unless I stitch, hands painful this week so stitching on hold.

Annie, don't the dogs need a walk?

I have a dog walker Lily who was on holiday the week the fence was renew !

Good night all sleep well.. night Annie x