Black dog gang

I have a friend who has the same experience plus different doctors tell her different things. She finds it really stressful. I think they just want to do their part of the job and then pull away. Wish I had a solution for you all. I can only imagine how hard it must be. I am fortunate to not have a physical problem on top of my depression.

nany although you have cried a lot today you have also met three lovely supportive people. Sometimes I think being given a 'reason' to cry can be beneficial.

Crying releases tension, best out than held in

I totally agree with you Annie, this is a lot of my problems I think. That the doc not only in my apinion does not listen to me she pulled face behind my back.. and I like you expect a little understanding it’s not much to ask for Annie,

Joce I think it is partly down to them making up their mind at an early stage and then not listening properly.

Nannie i totally agree, if they just listened let alone listen properly would be something.. my GP told me she would not tolerate HA. So not much point me going to some one that does not see me as a person with a problem or a illness, But just see a problem.

Joce sorry, what’s HA ?

Annie, I would say pick one or two of the ideas and slowly slowly work at it.

The diet one seems do able?

The amazon parcels.....a very good pair of scissors?

Is there no neighbour/friend who could go to poetry with you? Church people are usually kind and supportive?

Lilly thank you.

My hands are badly affected by arthritis, three fingers on both hands are twisted into the palms of my hands, can’t even cut my nails, so have to lift parcels onto sofa and sit and pick, pick,pick at the very tough sticky tape.

I don’t know my neighbours, no idea who goes to the poetry group. I will have to be content until I overcome the phobias

Annie
You are so brave and up against alot. I am glad you found the programme last night interesting. Mothering and grandmothering (Lovely word) certainly make you grow as a person as it is the hardest most sustained job of all.
Take care Anniebach from Dawn.

Dawn thank you for telling us about the programme, it brought back memories, when I was in the psychiatric unit for PND a girl came was admitted, she had thrown her baby against a wall, thank God he landed on the sofa, she thought her child was Rosemary’s Baby, the baby was brought to her every day , it was wonderful seeing her bond with him.

Who knows what out mothers battled with. My PND made me over protective of my baby, my husband called the doctor when I flipped, I bought face masks for us to wear and wanted to stop anyone coming into our house fearful they would harm her, she was ten months old ! She was seriously ill when 5 days old and again when 5 months old, this caused my paranoia and it’s why I feel so strongly about speaking out , I wasn’t told I had PND in the hospital, so again I say , what did our mothers suffer

I am sorry Annie is heath anxiety.. Doctor said she wasn’t giving in to it.. glad she doesn’t have to.

Thank you Joce how cruel , it is a recognised illness , can’t
you see another GP ?

Annie I am trying to find a new GP. Sadly have have lost al faith in them.. I am finding it difficult to put my trust in one, I do know I shouldn’t but it’s how I feel at the moment, I will sort my self out I am sure, I have been with the same one for as long has I can remember. I feel like she has let me and my family down so much.. my granddaughter was ill, took her to the same GP she took a water sample test it in surgery said it was fine this went on for 4 week we took her to another GP how sent the sample of to hospital but in mean time give her antibiotics, GD still getting worse .. when I said that it we are taking her to the children’s hospital. Yes she was very ill with a nasty water and kidney infection now she is still under the hospital.. they did said the doctor should not have left her so long that’s why it got so bad ,so you see why I have no faith in this doctors any more.. it’s one thing when it yourself but when it your children it well what can I say..

Joce what do you have to lose if you see another GP, yes you fear the same attitude as the GP you have now, but what if it was a GP who was understanding? It’s worth the risk ?

That’s true Annie you are right I don’t have anything to lose. I can’t feel any worse than I do already thank you Annie

Joce, I work with a large number of doctors in a big GP practice. I have never come across a doctor who would not show some understanding of a patient with health anxiety and we have several patients who suffer with it. Indeed the DSM-V recognises health anxiety as a disorder. I found this:

"Indeed, the new diagnostic criteria allow a different approach to treatment. Most psychiatrists assume that some sort of trauma, tragedy or conflict in the past is driving health-anxious fears and behaviors, Dr. Staab says. "And if we can't find it, and the patient can't find it, it can become a speculative wild goose chase for trauma. Trauma is more likely in these patients, but if we don't find a history of trauma, we can look at stress, and if we don't find that, we can still talk about exaggerated preoccupations with health and help patients reset and reframe that without digging around in the past."

Nanny, dog walking is such a great way to meet people and I'm glad you had a better day.

Maggie thank you, so interesting.

I hope you had a reasonable day Annie. Did the sun shine in the Brecons? Must be so beautiful.

Yes Maggie how I miss walking them , they are so beautiful, they change colour, black, blue,purple even pink depending on sunset

Aww wow Annie that sounds amazing..

Maggie sound very interesting.. I would do anything,try anything if it would help me. It really does consume my live. I have had counciling. If I want to go back I have to wait, the waiting list is very long. But don’t think it can do any more for me.. my GP thinks I will get better as I get older she said.. I have had some sad things to deal with in my life, as well as a mother that didn’t care about me.. but I have three wonderful children and 5 beautiful grandchildren who I love with all my heart.. I do count my blessing every day.. I really would like to no more about Dr Staab Maggie. Good night all sleep well ?

Sorry Maggie is there a link to it.

Well, I m stressed up to the eyeballs with hospital appointments I can't get to, garden nowhere near sorted etc[sh etc.

Hello everyone x

wot it’s a beggar isn’t it ? Would a gardener to help with the hacking be too costly ?

Got a man coming round in ten minutes (hopefully he will turn up)

Thank heaven for that wot you do too much lugging heavy stuff x