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Joce345 Wed 17-Apr-19 17:42:47

Please keep posting

Doodle Sun 12-May-19 17:50:12

That’s a kind thing to say sparkly. Sometimes the thought that someone is with you in spirit is a help.

Anniebach Sun 12-May-19 18:13:21

Hi Doodle x

Oldwoman we don’t accept ‘ i’m Sorry ‘, we are all troubled here , you have nothing to apologise for, not one of us has, no one chooses depression, anxiety, OCD, they are illnesses same as physical illness . Please talk, always someone here to listen and understand x

MaggieTulliver Sun 12-May-19 19:11:01

Hi all. Oldwoman, you're really not alone. Please try and distract yourself a bit and talk to us as much as you need.

Weekends can be hard. I haven't done anything social although I've had some nice chats when out and about with the dog. I enjoyed church this morning; felt like coming home. I do wish I had someone but my relationship history is very chequered and it never worked out. How is everyone feeling this evening?

nanny2507 Sun 12-May-19 19:21:21

LONG ONE

ive been at work today...ok day until i was speaking to the security guard about the fact that someone in my street has stolen my cat...this was 6 weeks ago and ive almost had a breakdown over it...now i cant 100% say someone in my street stole him but he was a beautiful boy worth a bit of money and he chose to go out then poof disappeared without a trace. I even hired a cat detection dog and the scent stopped on my drive and the only way that happens is if someone picks them up ,i live in a tiny tiny tiny village so.... as some one mentioned yesterday i love my pets very much and i am devastated. I havent slept a whole night since

nanny2507 Sun 12-May-19 19:23:48

old..dont ever say sorry we are all here because we struggle. Can i do/say anything that may help. i feel i can unburden myself here as there is always someone to help you make sense of whats going on "upstairs" or someone with wonderful for you. xx

Anniebach Sun 12-May-19 19:30:33

nanny your cat has been missing for six ŵeeks ? little wonder you are crying a lot, you are grieving

nanny2507 Sun 12-May-19 20:20:26

i am grieving massively annie. my heart is broken and i dont think it will ever mend x

MaggieTulliver Sun 12-May-19 20:21:57

Nanny I'm so sorry about your cat. Hoping there's a chance he might have just gone walkabout but the not knowing must be very hard. Our pets are like family.

Anniebach Sun 12-May-19 20:33:29

nanny you will come to terms with it , just time, and you have the depression too . X

Dawn22 Sun 12-May-19 20:51:38

Very interesting programme on television. Louis Theroux (whom l truly admire. Fascinating and interesting man). Documentary. Mothers on the edge. TONIGHT BBC 2. 9pm.

Try and watch it if you can my buddies.
Very best from Dawn.

Anniebach Sun 12-May-19 20:58:01

Thank you Dawn x

Dawn22 Sun 12-May-19 21:13:21

It is on BBC 2 Northern Ireland if anyone has that channel.
Dawn

Anniebach Sun 12-May-19 21:26:01

I am watching it on BBC2 Wales, I expect it’s on all BBC2 areas , thank you Dawn

SparklyGrandma Mon 13-May-19 01:43:21

Thank you Doodle. Night night everyone x

Oldwoman70 Mon 13-May-19 07:25:22

First thank you for the kind comments and apologies for not coming back again yesterday. Unfortunately everything seemed to overwhelm me - feeling better this morning.

Anniebach Mon 13-May-19 09:01:38

Hello Old Good to read you are feeling better today. X

Anniebach Mon 13-May-19 09:07:19

I watched the programme Dawn posted about yesterday.

Upsetting, good that mothers are getting help now, I did think about my treatment for PND over 40 years ago , then I thought about our mothers generation. There was no help for them, could be the explanation for much, children feeling unloved etc.

Joce345 Mon 13-May-19 12:43:18

Good afternoon all.. how is every one doing today?

Nonnie Mon 13-May-19 13:46:45

So sorry about your cat Nany.

Gosh all of you who post in the evening and even night! Good for you, I leave my laptop at about 6 pm and don't usually come back until mid-morning! Just don't ahve your stamina.

Have a better week everyone.

Anniebach Mon 13-May-19 13:54:13

Fed up. Why oh why can we not be treated as a whole person not bits of us.

Hand physiotherapist. - don’t lift anything which hurts your hands, just do gentle exercises

Question, who opens parcels swathed in sticky tape from Amazon

Physiotherapist for legs and muscle wastage - walk several times a day , you need an x ray on knee I think it’s dislocated

Question - how to I walk several times a day with dislocated knee and how to I go for an x Ray when my only transport is the ambulance bus, morning appointments pick me up by 9.00am collect me at 1.00pm. Afternoon appointments, pick you up about 1.30 collect you at 5.00

Dietician- increase your Insure and introduce solid foods

Question - what about ulcer, IBS and acid reflux

Therapist- ask your granddaughter to go to poetry group with you

Question - ask a 19 year old to travel 100 miles in an evening and sit listening to people reading poetry, not forgetting she has her end of year exams coming up.

Is it me bring grumpy?

wot Mon 13-May-19 14:21:50

I know exactly what you mean Annie. I cant get to the hospital either and now opticians made me another appointment at the hospital for AMD. if you try to explain to them about the impracticality of these appointments, they just think you are being unco operative. X

Joce345 Mon 13-May-19 15:11:27

Annie I was going to say do they not listen... when really I think I should be saying No they don’t listen... what is wrong with them is it because they have never been in our shoes. I often think is it me that cannot get across what I really want to say (I no I am no good at saying what I need to) but sometimes wonder, it does make you think..
hope every one is having a better day..

nanny2507 Mon 13-May-19 15:20:56

a teary day for me..cant get my cat off my mind. i keep imagining him laying in the sunshine in my garden..but hes not here..so i cry. took dogs for lovely walk meet a friend on route she gave me a cuddle and we had a laugh at her tiny little chihuahua offering herself to my gsd cross. Carried on my walk met a stranger who made me cry..again..she gave me a cuddle too..then met another stranger who cheered me up by showing me the beautiful pics she had of ducks and other duck with different names (?) with babies on her back and a video she took of a nightingale singing..it was beautiful x

Anniebach Mon 13-May-19 15:35:26

Agree wot x

Joce, I doubt I need to say I don’t have a problem saying what I want to, ? politely, makes no difference , I don’t expect the NHS to run to suit me, but a little understanding of difficilties would make a difference.

nanny sorry you are so unhappy but it’s good that you went out for a walk , you met some lovely, kind people x

Anniebach Mon 13-May-19 15:39:26

Today is the start of Mental Health Week .

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