Black dog gang

dragon, it would help you if they knew you were worried. I think you are giving yourself a triple dose here.....1. the cancer. 2. the depression 3. putting on a front.

Be brave, tell somebody how you feel. It lessens " its'" power over you. You cannot contain this for a week.

dragonfly , I can understand you feeling less stressed when seeing someone regularly. Do tell the oncologist how you are feeling, not only physically.

We are here to listen x

dragonfly, I think it's possible that your family is following your lead - If so, they may also be putting on a front as well, burying their concerns beneath their desire to handle the matters according to the way you do - So, in that regard, you still have control -

I have had depression all my life. I was sexually abused from 13 onwards...the trouble is I didn’t realise it was abuse...just thought I was going out/around with guys in their twenties. I now realise that you are not grown up at 13....and emotionally you can’t cope with things. Also no one bothered with all this psychology when I was young...something bad that happens wasn’t discussed properly at all...I know a kitten dying a day after getting it upset me greatly....it wasn’t my fault, but I probably thought it was due to nagging my mother into letting me get it.....all my life has been full of wrong choices. I married a man I don’t get on with, don’t love/ like, and have nothing in common with....but didn’t leave....so basically I have made myself unhappy for 45 years and I mean unhappy. I have two medical conditions that can’t be cured . One could kill me any minute of any day and one causing me acute pain from moment my foot hits the ground. I can’t take anti depressants because they all cause low sodium. I already have low sodium. My anxiety and depression have ruined my life....and continue to do so and I believe will until I die.

Go to the GP. Get some money somehow and see a therapist.

Do both now, today.

You are worth more than this.

Yogadatti you are so troubled.

Do see your GP , tell him/her how you feel, you need counselling.

The next 45 years do not have to be the same as the years which have past .

We are here to listen x

My GP knows how I feel. Has never had a solution for any of my problems including the physical. I have had counselling , both private and NHS, and it doesn’t change anything,

Change GP. See a different counsellor.

Do you have children?

Lily 65....thanks for comment...tried other GP’s much the same and I have seen many counsellors in my life. I am 69.
Yes I have a daughter and son. Both are great in their own way but neither are interested in my problems. At 38 and 31 they are interested in sorting out their own lives not mine.

It's so sad that some of us spend so many years living miserably, sometimes because of the actions of others or events beyond our control. Unfortunately it's hard for others to understand if they haven't walked in your shoes. I hope you can find a solution.

Ok your AC are great......what does that tell you? You did not repeat the hideous experiences and dysfunctional childhood you were subjected to.

An absolutely massive achievement.

I actually think your depression is masking the fact that they are interested in you. Nobody is asking them to sort out your life, that is your responsibility.

Physical pain is exhausting. Don't give up on yourself.
Try acupuncture, cranial osteopathy, massage, anything at all. Get a care agency in, get a cleaner,buy a colourful scarf and some perfume.

You are still in there somewhere.

Yogadatti I am so very sorry you haven’t been able to get help. Please don’t accept ‘this is how it will be’

This thread was started for us with depression, anxiety , fears to talk to each other and to listen , do talk when you need x

Hi all don’t know what to do today, I am so scared it won’t stop or go away has any one got any words of wisdom for me. I need to carm my self down

Please feel free to message me.

Joce so sorry your having a bad day, it will pass, you have had better days and you will again. No comfort I know when having a bad day.

Hugs x

Joce believe me it will pass. Just take it an hour at a time.

Some may know I am trying to overcome agoraphobia,
With encouragement from GN I started by putting milk bottles outside the front door in the daylight.

I couldn’t go into the bsck gsrden , this week a new fence was fitted, took three days ! anyway in the first two days I went out into the back garden, spoke to the men working on the fence and stood and checked all my garden pots to see which shrubs had survived winter.

I ŵent out seven times, no anxiety, no trying to find courage, I just did it. Could be the EMDR therapy or could be I didn’t think “ I must go out there ‘, just did, wonderful sense of freedom.

Oh wow Annie that is wonderful news. It is such an achievement. May it continue. I even shed a tear.

It was great dragonfly, just such a natural thing to do. Am now thinking of buying some garden chairs, the thought of taking a mug of tea to sit outdoors, before the phobia struck I use to love sitting late evening in the garden , then it all stopped.

How are you coping, you have your appointment Tuesday, I am counting the days with you, x

Brilliant Anniebach!
The longest journey starts with a single step - and you have taken those steps!?

Yes Maw you will remember me and the milk bottles ?

How are you ?

I am fine thank you - all the better for reading your encouraging news!

Thank you all.it is so good to know you are all there for one another .. Annie that’s brill well done you