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SparklyGrandma Sat 25-May-19 20:20:03

Hello everyone...

nanny2507 Mon 10-Jun-19 20:12:13

hello everyone. bad evening for me. many tears.

Anniebach Mon 10-Jun-19 20:15:32

What’s causing it nanny ?

nanny2507 Mon 10-Jun-19 20:26:02

tank annie I hate it when it rains as i worry about him being left out in the rain being cold and wet and missing "mummy". the people who have him can have everything i own I just want him back

Anniebach Mon 10-Jun-19 20:40:08

nanny how many weeks since he disappeared?

Marilla Mon 10-Jun-19 21:12:01

Anniebach thank you for telling me about the therapist.
The tummy churning and weak legs are so familiar.
We know there is nothing out there to harm us, but it is so difficult to articulate to anyone else.

Marilla Mon 10-Jun-19 21:16:17

Nonnie, did you manage to do what was needed today?
Are you alright?

Anniebach Mon 10-Jun-19 21:28:51

It is difficult Marilla , here it is understood as is depression
OCD, grief . We all have something which causes us to know
that miserable place , no one is alone here x

nanny2507 Mon 10-Jun-19 21:34:09

10.5 weeks annie ive just posted on fb £500 reward if they give him back

Anniebach Mon 10-Jun-19 21:39:45

nanny please take care, people post things which hurt, should anyone distress you post here , I will check in here throughout the days x

nanny2507 Mon 10-Jun-19 21:52:50

thanks annie its really appreciated xx

Anniebach Mon 10-Jun-19 22:05:43

No one is alone here x

Doodle Mon 10-Jun-19 22:28:15

I think my problem is sadness too. Sort of anxiety as well. I just keep worrying about things that might upset my family. I skirt round it a bit too phoenix. Not wanting to put it into clear thought. I know that if I face it head on and think of the worst that can happen then that’s supposed to be a way to overcome the worry. But I can’t do that.
Sorry for all those feeling down tonight. Nice to have somewhere to chat.

nanny2507 Tue 11-Jun-19 09:18:32

it really is doodle hope everyone has a brighter day today x

Nonnie Tue 11-Jun-19 11:38:26

Sorry to hear that Pheonix hope it clears soon. I understand if you don't want to say anything on here but please know you have support.

Cherry sometimes I think it can be harder to be the one caring for someone than to be the one who needs caring for. Hope that makes some sense.

Doodle perhaps counselling would help you, it does help some.

nanny do be careful to ensure you actually get your cat before paying anything out and do not go alone to meet anyone who says they have the cat. There are nasty people out there who play on your loss.

Thanks Marilla I took the first practical step to try to change something huge for us. It is going to be long and hard and I'm not up to doing more today because I didn't sleep last night. Trying to convince myself that I have to do it as not doing it is stressful so I might as well take on the stress of doing it.

Doodle Tue 11-Jun-19 13:44:31

nonnie thank you for your kind thought. My worries/anxieties usually relate to my family (don’t get me wrong, they are all lovely it’s just that I worry for/about them). Once the current issues are ok I will poodle along on low worry level till something else crops up.
Hope you all have a bit of sunshine today - it’s raining here ☔️ but I’m going for a walk anyway ?

Nonnie Tue 11-Jun-19 13:52:41

Doodle I understand that, I am always catastrophising about my family and know the reason why. We had no idea we would never see our son again so of course I worry that it could happen to the other members of the family. Daft I know because worrying won't change a thing but I can't help it.

Been weeping all day today. Haven't achieved much at all.

Anniebach Tue 11-Jun-19 19:26:40

Hello friends x

Late joining you today. Younger Granddaughter was here which was lovely.

Then had to support my younger daughter, my mother in law is very ill and younger daughter is very fond of her.

Went the day well? or not ?

Anniebach Tue 11-Jun-19 20:10:22

Cherry you are troubled, you can’t betray a confidence but do post any time to share your feelings x

Phoenix if you think it will cause you distress don’t unpick
it until you feel stronger x

Joce345 Tue 11-Jun-19 21:35:12

Evening all.. just want to wish you all a good night ?
How are you doing today Annie hope you are well.. ?

Anniebach Tue 11-Jun-19 21:37:09

Hello Joce. Enjoyed time with my younger granddaughter, how are you ?

Elvive Tue 11-Jun-19 21:50:40

Could the wee kitty just have gone walk about and have found a new home?

Anniebach Tue 11-Jun-19 21:59:02

How are you Elvive ?

phoenix Tue 11-Jun-19 22:02:37

Thank you all for the supportive posts, they are appreciated.

I feel that I dare not begin to "unpick" the current thing, as the consequences could be too much.

Perhaps just accept things as they are (acceptable, but not wonderful, but hell, what in life is?)

I am more fortunate than many.

Anniebach Tue 11-Jun-19 22:17:34

phoenix it’s so difficult, a case of unpick and find the cause or - letting sleeping dogs lie . If I may suggest ? Don’t do the
unpicking alone

phoenix Tue 11-Jun-19 22:24:22

Oh Annie I know the cause, and in this case the sleeping dog would continue to sleep, is definitely not one to talk!

But as I say, I'm more fortunate than most.

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