I am so sorry to hear your so sad news Craftycat and the way it was told.
But take heart because things are advancing so much in the treatment of cancer and with treatment your DIL could still be here for many years yet. It is more likely to appear in one area and that can be cured or held back by treatment. And so it goes on. I had breast cancer and was clear for 23 years until I was diagnosed with metatastic breast cancer with metastases on my spine last year. It cant be cured but can be treated as can your DIL's. Please read about it on the Macmillan or cancer care pages. I am sure it will help you a lot. I know what a shock it must have been for you and your family but you will find there is a lot of positive information available online. Big hugs to you.
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