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First Christmas Alone

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Msida Sun 11-Oct-20 11:46:25

Hi I will be spending my first Christmas alone.. I lost my husband recently..

I will have one visit, which is for Christmas breakfast from family, but they will then go off for the day to spend it with another part of the family and I will be alone for the rest of the day..

Thing is I don't want it to be a sad day

MellowYellow Thu 19-Nov-20 08:20:49

I'm so sorry for your loss. My unwanted and unexpected divorce left me feeling as if I was mourning. The first Christmas Day I spent at a hotel with some friends. In retrospect I wouldn't do that again because it felt like I was just trying to fill a gap. The second one I spent at the Salvation Army and had a wonderful time because I was with others who were on their own. We had a lot of fun. What a lovely suggestion, to come on to Gransnet on The Day. I'll do that too. See you here!

glammanana Thu 19-Nov-20 10:22:31

MsidaI can relate as to how you feel.
Last Christmas I lost my beloved husband right on top of Christmas and that time just passed me by in a blur of grief then the first lockdown was brought in and things just got worse.
Christmas will never be the same again for me but this year I am going to spend the day with my DDs family hopefully we will spend the day remembering my husband and his love for Christmas and his family.
Msida Treat yourself to some nice food and a glass of something special and raise a glass to your husband,spend the day with a good film and talk to us here on GN so looking forward to us talking on the big day xx glamma xx

Ziggy62 Thu 19-Nov-20 10:49:00

the first Christmas after my first husband died (at the end of October) I still had a teenage daughter at home, so we tried to be jolly and make the best of it, visiting friends and having some sort of Christmas dinner

5 years later , the christmas after my father died, I decided not to put a brave face on . My mother went to stay with her cousin where she could "keep busy and enjoy Christmas". I chatted to family on the phone, enjoyed the peace n quiet, ate dinner when i wanted to, had a few glasses of wine, cried when I wanted to, watched TV and just relaxed

My advice would be to just do whatever suits you on the day. Thinking of you xxxx

grandtanteJE65 Fri 20-Nov-20 13:13:20

Christmas is always hard after a death in the family, and I am so sorry Msida to hear you have recently lost your husband.

After each of my parents' deaths and again after my sister died, we found it helpful to do something a little different than we normally would on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

That worked for us. I hope you find something that works for you.